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24 June 2020 – Have You Used Genograms in Family History?

June 24, 2020 by Jennifer Holik

Question 24 June 2020

Have you used genograms to take a deeper dive into your personal and family history? What did you discover?

Please comment below to share with others if you feel comfortable.

I also invite you to journal on this question on your own.

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: DNA, family patterns, genealogy, genogram, journaling, writing

Your Family’s War Journey A Life Transforming Master Class

June 23, 2020 by Jennifer Holik

This class will change how you research and write!

Journey with Jennifer as your travel guide, through your family’s history, their military stories, and your own story. On this journey you will read a life-changing book.

Together with a core group of people, we will discuss issues and emotions around the themes of war, religion, women’s themes, spirituality, family, stories, trauma, inherited trauma, racism, LGBTQ, caregiver issues, secrets, shame, guilt, PTSD, and many other topics that come from the book, my questions, and your experiences.

You will explore your family’s history and dive into who you are with this knowledge. You will even begin to write your own stories.

Watch the video to learn more then scroll down to explore more details. To learn more about this seven-week course, visit the registration page to find full details and testimonials from past participants. If you have questions about this course, please contact Jennifer at info@wwiirwc.com. I can’t wait to work with you and guide you on your transformative journey! © 2020 Ancestral Souls

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: 9th Division, 9th Infantry Division, adoption, ancestral souls, ancestry, consciousness, DNA, energy healing, genealogy, genealogy education, healing circle, master class, membership, membership program, mental health, North Africa, PTSD, racism, the great awakening, trauma, wwi, wwii, wwii education, your family's war journey

17 June 2020 – Is it Valuable to Separate and Divide?

June 17, 2020 by Jennifer Holik

Question 17 June 2020

When exploring my family history or living my life, is it valuable to divide and separate people thereby making some more important than others, especially at the expense of making myself small? Why or why not?

Please comment below to share with others if you feel comfortable.

I also invite you to journal on this question on your own.

You might also consider reading my article, is division necessary in family, ancestors, & Community healing?

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: ancestral healing, DNA, family patterns, genealogy, racism, shame, writing

The Surprising Foundation I Built to Survive These Times

June 11, 2020 by Jennifer Holik

We have made it to June 2020 and the world, especially America is pushing the dark into the light. This is making us all very uncomfortable. Unstable. Nervous. Scared. Pushing a lot of guilt, shame, doubt, anger, rage, hate, and other negative emotions to the surface. Some belong to us, some belong to our ancestors, others belong to the collective that we feel in our bodies, hearts,  and souls.

So what do we do with all this? How do we stay sane as the world is slowly deconstructed? All the things we believed were for our good are slowly being taken away. What will they be replaced with?

What energy are you primarily living in? Fear – which creates more of that in your universe? Doubt? Anger? Confusion? Grief? How are you exploring that and healing it?

In my new video I explore a huge realization I had last night – I am no longer ok with this life. I want out. I am no longer happy with the stories I’ve lived or tell and not happy with most of the characters, including the ones I’ve played.

When we reach that point, it is a step into complete freedom, which for most of the planet’s residents feels very scary. After watching my video – please share in the comments how you feel. What are you going through? How has your life and your ancestors’ lives or military histories affected how you process and deal with current events? I invite you to subscribe to my mailing list so you will receive more articles, resources, education, and tips on how to create your life in the new way this earth is being created.

Do you need support or resources?

I am here to help people explore their beliefs and shed old patterns. I have many ways to help you.

Explore my private facilitation session options.

Join my Genealogy Ancestral Lineage Healing Group.

Sign up for my newsletter & receive access to the free Finding the Answers Journey member area. Plus you will receive information about my soon to be released Ancestral Souls Healing Circle Membership. This will be a monthly membership in which we explore topics around personal and lineage healing.

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Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: Civil War, DNA, family history, genealogy, IDPF, inherited trauma, Korean War, marriage, mental health, Revolutionary War, spirituality, the great awakening, travel, vietnam war, war dead, wwi, wwii

10 June 2020 – What Are My Ancestors’ Lessons?

June 10, 2020 by Jennifer Holik

 

Question 10 June 2020

When I look at what’s happening in the world today and find similar events in my ancestors’ lives, what lessons are available for me?

 

Please comment below to share with others if you feel comfortable.

I also invite you to journal on this question on your own.

Filed Under: Ancestral Healing, Personal Healing, Weekly Question Tagged With: ancestral healing, creative writing, energy healing, family history writing, family patterns, genealogy, Intuitive Healer, military writing, weekly questions

Exploring Victim Energy in Ourselves & Ancestral Lineages

June 9, 2020 by Jennifer Holik

Recently in one of the many online classes I’m taking, a verbal confrontation occurred between a few people in the class over current events.  I pay attention to the energy people put out through their bodies, words, attitudes, and what isn’t said but felt. In this case I felt one of the people spoke calmly, discussed her personal experience with the event/issue while another went into victim mode and raged back calling names and shut out all possibility of hearing any other point of view except her own.

This wasn’t the first time I had encountered such strong negative energy from this individual in class when things didn’t go her way. Understanding something about her I am aware there is probably an ancestral lineage and personal life full of trauma and pain. Trauma and pain are one way to more easily enter victim mode. I left the class feeling heavy and asking a lot of questions.

A couple hours later I was in my usual weekly class for my Intuitive Healer Training Program & Certification (IHTP). I felt this class would help me shift out of the heavy energy and I was correct.

It was interesting that during the opening meditation for the IHTP class, I kept getting the word victim where it related to the earlier conversation and one of the participants. Then I heard the words ancestral lineage. I knew then I had to explore this idea of playing the victim (consciously or unconsciously) and using our ancestral lineage as the reason we play the victim.

We all play the victim from time to time


Whether we want to admit it or not, we have all played the victim role/archetype from time to time. It is part of being human. Sometimes this energy is ingrained in us that we don’t even know we are doing it. Other times we use this energy to manipulate or get what we want.  Being the center of attention and getting one’s way can be a powerful addiction for some people. Then there are times when we are doing our inner work and healing and go into this energy but step out of it because we are consciously creating our reality.

I admit that during the meditation in IHTP, questions were swirling around this idea of victim energy and ancestral lineage. Plus, how do we play in that energy in our own lives.  I sat with this for several hours before writing this article. There are many questions you can ask around this topic and many rabbit holes you can go down within your personal history and ancestral lineage history to find answers. Here are a few questions to help you.

  1. When and where in my life have I played in victim energy? What was happening to create this response?
  2. Where did that energy come from? My personal history or ancestral history?
  3. Why was I playing in that energy?
  4. When I react or respond to someone while I’m in victim energy – am I explosive, angry, hurtful, tune others out, shut down, leave my body, call names, manipulate or try to control, etc.?
  5. Am I addicted to this energy? Does it create hormones in my body that give me a high?
  6. Was I consciously playing in that energy or at the time was I unaware I was?
  7. Now that I have identified the when, where and why I played in that along with where it came from, what inner work and healing do I need to do to stop playing in that energy?
  8. What changes do I need to make in how I interact with people to shift or stop that victim energy?
  9. What will it take to release this energy from my body and soul and more consciously create my reality?
an example of playing in the victim energy

If you have followed me at all the last four years, particularly the last two, you know how difficult life has been on the other side of the ocean with my husband’s declining health. We went through almost two years of questions as to why things were declining. Numerous tests, procedures, and doctor appointments before things got bad and the hospitalizations began.

Dealing with the medical system in another country, one in which citizens are taught to obey their authority figures without question, was extremely difficult for me. As an American who is constantly questioning everything and doing my inner work, I struggled with this limited mindset and I went into victim mode – then took myself out – then went back in – it was almost like riding a surf wave over and over for two years.

How did I play victim? In many ways it was internal – blaming my husband in my head (and sometimes out loud) for not asking questions or being angry with myself for not pushing more or staying with him in the first place (he was diagnosed with 2 cancers right after we met). Oh woe is me I live this life with all this stress and grief. And there was a LOT of grief and many other emotions no one ever taught me about or how to deal with in these circumstances. So I became a victim to all my emotions too.

Then there was the external victim where I lashed out at his friends who of course were in the mindset that you just obey the doctors and keep your mouth closed. None of them understood how difficult and stressful and emotional it was for me to be in a foreign country dealing with hospitals and doctors and fighting for him and keeping all his family and friends updated every time he went in. And I had zero support from them even from the start. So I was going through all this alone. That made me angry and I became the victim. Most of my friends in the U.S. or on social media knew very little about what was happening most of the time.

In and out of that I went and seemed to be better when I was at home and not overseas. Then last July when things got really bad again I said ENOUGH! I was done playing in all this energy – victim, supporter, healer, all of it.

When I chose that – everything changed. 90% of the attachment I felt to my husband and his health dropped away. My body began to relax. My energy shifted. I finally realized this was not in any way in my control and it was all his choice to live or die, stay sick, heal, listen to the docs or not, take care of himself the way the docs said to or not. It didn’t matter what I said or did – it was and is all his choice. Control is a separate issue I’ll probably tackle in another article. 

Did my victim energy come from my ancestors? Looking at my family tree I can see at least one instance where an ancestor probably played in this energy that contributed to this specific instance in which I have been dealing.

Was her victim energy or trauma passed down to me because she dealt with a lot of trauma before she likely went into victim energy? Possibly. Do I blame her? NO. I explore her story and the family’s story. I channel her and others in my writing to ask questions and ask for clarification about what took place. I understand more what happened and I heal these things in myself – which then heals my ancestors. It is not fun to look at these dark shadow sides of myself but it is something I’m willing to do so these patterns and energies do not continue in the future.

 

Using the questions above, we can look at where we have played the victim.

A few tips when we explore this energy.

  1. Do not judge it. We all go into victim mode during our lives – sometimes consciously and sometimes not. However, each of us is on our own journey and each time we acknowledge we play in this energy, we have an opportunity to do deeper work and heal it.
  2. Try to get out of the energy as soon as you realize you are playing in it. This is important so we do not continue to create more of the victim energy and create more conflict and yuck in our lives. Sometimes that conflict leads to the end of relationships we may have held dear.
  3. Be gentle with yourself. As we do our deeper work and heal the dark or shadow parts of ourselves, we must be gentle. No one is perfect and we all have inner work to do.
  4. Do not lay blame. Sometimes the easiest thing to do is blame someone else for our actions or responses. Blaming an ancestor who may have created the energy that was passed down – that we play victim in – is not a constructive way to heal the past and present. If you do lay blame, try to acknowledge you did this and shift the energy. Apologize to your ancestors for blaming and ask them how you can both/all heal.

Sometimes our ancestors are not the ones who perpetuated the victim energy that we play in. Sometimes we learn this from our immediate family or from society growing up. To remain part of a tribe and fit in, we will often imitate those around us, even when we know it is not in our highest good to do so. Asking ourselves to get real about why we are playing the victim is the first step to shifting that energy.

As our world continues to change in 2020 and this decade, taking a truthful look at our energy, our shadow side, our personal and ancestral lineage issues is extremely important so we may heal and shift out of the old energies. Creating a planet on which people can live in harmony, without separation, anger, and hate is what we are headed toward. It takes all of us to wake up and do our part to make this transition easier for everyone. Those who choose to continue playing in these old energies and being the victim and further causing division and anger will not have it easy as we transition.

All of Life is a choice – how do you choose to create your life, living, and reality?

Do you need support or resources?

I am here to help people explore their beliefs and shed old patterns. I have many ways to help you.

Explore my private facilitation session options.

Join my Genealogy Ancestral Lineage Healing Group.

Sign up for my newsletter & receive access to the free Finding the Answers Journey member area. Plus you will receive information about my soon to be released Ancestral Souls Healing Circle Membership. This will be a monthly membership in which we explore topics around personal and lineage healing.

Join my Roots & War Writing Group to start writing your stories.

© 2020 Ancestral Souls

Filed Under: Ancestral Healing, Blog, Create Your Life, Genealogy, Personal Healing Tagged With: ancestral lineage, chakras, empath, energy healing, genealogy, victim energy

Are you Blindly Following Your Ancestors’ Beliefs & Patterns?

June 8, 2020 by Jennifer Holik

2020 is a year of intense change on the planet. It is what some call The Great Awakening as millions around the world wake up to the games that have been played for centuries. The lies told by the media and government to keep us divided, poor, unable to think for ourselves, to not care for our bodies & souls as we should, and wreak havoc and create trauma for everyone. The lies and manipulation and control of religion to make sure we follow whatever path has been laid out so those in power remain in power and the rest of us feel we have zero choices and are wrong or shamed for any choice we make outside the strict box.

As we sit here in June 2020, just one day after (I hope) all the worldwide riots and protests have stopped, it is time to go within and ask ourselves the hard questions.

Am I blindly following my ancestral beliefs and patterns?

We are a combination of our personal experiences in this life plus the experiences and traumas of our ancestors and the collective on earth. 

When we are born, we come into these bodies with our own knowing and beliefs. To fit in with our tribe we marinate in the soup of what our parents believe, how they behave, how our siblings, extended family, and society believe and behave. We learn to adapt to become part of the tribe for survival. Usually it isn’t until much later in life that we stop to explore WHY we believe all we believe and choose to behave as we do. At this point we realize we have a choice in how to create our lives and can let go of our family’s, society’s and the collective’s negative or destructive beliefs.

Each of those who came before us make many choices to survive, based on what they learned from their families, society, religion, and education. Over centuries of programming people into believing certain things – most people don’t even question their beliefs or behavior anymore. Those who are awake – do question.

Often those who are awake are seen as “crazy” or “stupid” or in need of mental health services because the questions we ask, the possibilities and magic of the universe of which we are aware, and the layers of lies we see, according to most people on the planet – couldn’t possibly be true. Therefore there is something really wrong with those of us who are awake and questioning. I mean, if we go against what the media, family, religion, education, government has told us over and over – we can’t possibly be right….can we?

Those who step outside of the box and think for themselves, question everything are often the loners in the family who have said ENOUGH! Enough of the negative patterns. Enough of the old beliefs that only hold me back. Enough of the lack mentality. Enough of not being allowed to be our full and honest selves. Enough of not being able to speak our truths. Enough of ignoring our intuition and invisible guides that surround us always. Enough of keeping people in our lives who do not honor us but only seek to shame, blame, and put us down.

Our ancestors may have not been allowed to do their inner work due to the times in which they lived, but we have a choice now. Moving forward, this will be one way to create our reality on this planet as the earth gets a consciousness upgrade.

 

So what do we do to stop the patterns?

It starts by acknowledging you are a POWERFUL INTUITIVE BEING. Go within and tune into your knowing. Start doing your healing and clearing work to more easily release the old patterns. Start speaking your truth and be true to yourself even if it means you lose family and friends. A new tribe will show up for you. Not all who cross our paths are meant to be in our lives forever. Some are there only for a season to be our greatest teachers to help us learn our harder lessons and become who we are here to be.

Also start ASKING QUESTIONS and RESEARCHING. Ask questions when your intuition tells you something is not quite right. Listen to your body and knowing. Then dig. Explore all those resources outside mainstream media or what social media has programmed you to believe are reliable sources (based on their agenda). Stop looking for the “experts” to only be those with an advanced degree. There are many people on the planet tuning into the universe who have information to share. Many who are in the know but can’t reveal their sources.

They say truth is stranger than fiction. Isn’t that the time we are living in? As more comes to light the rest of 2020, the truth will be stranger and more horrifying than fiction. I have wondered how many of my family and friends will need mental health services when the truth comes out. So many have chosen to label me as in need of services because I’ve tried to wake them up and keep honoring my knowing and do my inner work. But the reality is – I’m more equipped to handle the truth at this point and I do worry about the others who are not.

Do your inner work and honor your truth. I started my conscious spiritual journey 21 December 2012 when many on the planet woke up. Since then I’ve spent thousands of hours a year working on my inner stuff and healing the abuse and trauma in my lineage, with various teachers. I’ve also committed to a meditation practice which has increased tremendously this year. As hard as some of the things that have come up have been, I’m grateful I walked through the fire and was willing to look at the dark parts of myself and my lineage. Had I not – I think I would have been a mess through all the changes this year.

One thing everyone can do is continue planting seeds for those who are not awake. Tell your story and how you chose to wake up and question. How you chose to look at your family patterns and beliefs and let things go. Others will wake up this year as the truth comes out. Those of us who have been doing our work and shining our lights will be needed even more.  It will be a good idea to continue your self-care and spiritual practices and see where you can improve so you remain grounded and sourced as these changes occur.

Finally, we can thank our ancestors and family for their burdens and blessings, beliefs, life, and impact on our lives today. Without them we wouldn’t be here for an exciting time on the planet. One many of us have lived lifetimes for, always hoping peace and abundance would come. It will, be patient and continue doing your work. Shed the old ancestral beliefs and patterns.

Do you need support or resources?

I am here to help people explore their beliefs and shed old patterns. I have many ways to help you.

Explore my private facilitation session options.

Join my Genealogy Ancestral Lineage Healing Group.

Sign up for my newsletter & receive access to the free Finding the Answers Journey member area. Plus you will receive information about my soon to be released Ancestral Souls Healing Circle Membership. This will be a monthly membership in which we explore topics around personal and lineage healing.

Join my Roots & War Writing Group to start writing your stories.

© 2020 Ancestral Souls

Filed Under: Ancestral Healing, Blog, Create Your Life, Genealogy, Personal Healing Tagged With: beliefs, consciousness, family history, family patterns, genealogy, genogram, inherited trauma, mental health

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