Family patterns and secrets, the known and unknown, can really create chaos in our lives when not explored, acknowledged and healed. Family Constellations is one way to work with family patterns and explore the past.

Family Constellations is a system created by the late Bert Hellinger to help individuals and families see the known and unknown in a family system (constellation) and work to heal and release those patterns. This is important because we all, consciously or unconsciously, are living pieces of our parents, siblings, or ancestors’ lives, usually in ways that mess us up and keep us stuck.

I learned about Family Constellations several years ago but only in the last year have I really begun to dig into the depths of it. After reading a few books on the subject, I discovered Nikki MacKay, an author, family constellator, and therapist in the U.K. who specializes in this and writes about it in a way anyone can use it. Her methods of explaining how to do a constellation alone or with a group opened up many doors for me.

Nikki’s book Between the Lines. Healing the Individual and Ancestral Soul with Family Constellation is a great starter guide for those like me, who need their hand held a bit more to fully understand this process.

I recently received another one of her books that was published later (more on that in a different article). I think she took sections of her first book and greatly expanded it for the next. I like this approach because it gives people greater choice on how to proceed.

In Between the Lines, Nikki takes us on a journey through Family Constellations and explains in just over 100 pages how to start working with it, the benefits, what entangles us with our ancestors, and possible outcomes. She also explains how some of the entanglements between us and a family member(s) can create continued destructive or negative living patterns in our lives.

For example, through some prior family patterns work and several tools in addition to Nikki’s book, I realized I am living out and standing in for entanglements and issues for my Grandpa Joe and Grandma Libbie. Several things about their lives and the war have affected me. Only I didn’t realize it until last year. There are many similarities between how they lived and patterns I unconsciously recreated in my life and one particular relationship.

When I first realized this late last year it FREAKED ME OUT!  I was angry, scared, happy, uncertain, and many other emotions. To be honest, I’d spent the last 6-7 years focused on my maternal line and the healing I knew I had to do for me and that side. I was ignoring – consciously my paternal side out of fear and other things I couldn’t name until last September when Libbie showed up and gave me some big awareness. Then I started looking more and healing my issues that also come down the ancestral lines from them and even before them.

Reading Nikki’s two books has given me even more tools to use to explore the entanglements and release them. To step into the more authentic ME as I work through the past. To stop repeating relationship patterns and negative things that only mess up my life and joy and really – to some extent my intimate relationship.

So what’s next? Well I plan to finish her other book I bought. Waiting on a third to arrive that she wrote. I will be incorporating her techniques into my personal healing and meditation and journaling sessions. I will also be teaching a little of this in my new Ancestral Souls Healing Circle Membership program I’m launching soon. Join my mailing list today to be first to be notified about the new member area. Important! stay subscribed to all Kajabi marketing emails – those come from me. If you unsubscribe and own any products, you do not receive the emails for those products or the member area.

 

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In my continued study of topics related to personal and ancestral healing, through some conference I registered for online I received an email about a webinar by Troy Love, author of the book Finding Peace. A Workbook on Healing From Loss, Neglect, Rejection, Abandonment, Betrayal, and Abuse.

He had  a free offer of a 5-day email course and after watching his short video about the course, I signed up and then purchased his book.

Books have a way of showing up in my life when I need them or one of my clients needs them. This book showed up for the people in my writing group specifically I discovered, but also for my personal healing.

Troy’s workbook takes you through a group therapy setting in which he introduces the cast of characters and their personal stories. All stories and people are fictional. His chapters then take the group, week by week, through some deep healing. While upon first flip through of the workbook, you may think the worksheets are not that in-depth or “exciting” but they can create massive transformation and deep healing if you do the work.

Chapters:

Week One – The Group and Wound Assessment (Core wounds we suffer)

Week Two – Core Beliefs

Week Three – Core Emotions

Week Four – The Shadows of Shame (there are six

Week Five – Numbing and Mutated Emotions

Week Six – Faith, Hope, and Compassion

Week Seven – Tattoo Removal (the ink stains of core wounds in your heart and body)

Week Eight – Peace and Pain

Throughout the book and each chapter, Troy also has some graphics that clearly show how we start with core wounds and work out through a circle adding layers of beliefs, emotions, shame, etc. This is similar to what I’ve seen in other healing books and classes but presented differently.

I think it’s important to study different teachers and approaches because we will pick something up from one and not another. We all heal and process in different ways.

I recommend this book for anyone starting to look at their personal core wounds, beliefs, emotions and healing. This workbook is easy to use, the narrative he presents for his group meetings give many perspectives of wounds and family history and patterns. It allows us to take personal responsibility for our choices and also to see that we aren’t alone in our wounds and feelings.

Further, I think this book can be used for you alone or in a small group setting, as Troy has illustrated. If you can find a core group of people to work with, create a safe, sacred, open, non-judgmental space – I see this working well.  You do not need to be a therapist to use this workbook.  However, if you feel things are triggering too much, you should consider seeking professional help.

What books have you read recently that our readers might find helpful? Please share in the comments.

 

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Over the last few years I have begun studying different aspects of ancestral lineage healing, family patterns, family secrets, and other topics as they related to my military and family history. Many of my clients have also been seeking resources around these topics. I have one to suggest to those just dipping their toes into this pool. Healing Ancestral Karma by Dr. Steven Farmer

I discovered Dr. Farmer through The Shift Network when I received an email for his class “The 5 Ancestral Realms” in the fall of 2019. The class description gave a different view of working with the ancestors than Dr. Daniel Foor in his book and course (which I’m taking currently). After signing up for Dr. Farmer’s course, I ordered his book. The book wasn’t required for the course but contributed to what I was learning.

The book has short chapters which make absorbing the information easier. Reading the book I was also introduced to many others books, which of course I had to purchase, to add to my ancestor education. Reviews on those will be scattered over the next few months.

Healing Ancestral Karma provides primary sections on:

  • Getting Acquainted with the Ancestors
  • Making Contact with the Ancestors
  • Healing Ancestral Family Patterns

Within those sections he introduces readers to these topics and many more:

  • Making contact with your ancestors.
  • Contacting spirit and animal guides.
  • Energy, DNA, and Ancestors
  • Mediumship
  • Automatic Writing
  • Shamanism
  • Family Secrets
  • PTSD
  • Creating a family altar

I walked away from this book with some new strategies to work with ancestors and new ways to create rituals and family altars. Whether you have been doing energy and ancestor work for years or are just getting started, this book will contribute to your practice.

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Penny Walters has written an amazing book every genealogy and military research should read. It’s called Ethical Dilemmas in Genealogy by Penny Walters.

Why is this book important?

Penny outlines many potential ethical dilemmas faced by genealogy and military researchers. A few include: How do we handle things like secrets uncovered? Knowledge of a DNA match to someone the family didn’t know existed? How does a professional provide potentially emotionally damaging information to a client – or do they? Do you celebrate when you find a criminal in your family? These are only the tip of the iceberg.

How do we handle these things? Penny’s book shows us how through numerous examples and case studies. Her book covers:

  • What are ethical dilemmas?
  • Ethical dilemmas in genealogy.
  • DNA Testing
  • Adoption
  • Ethnicity and Identity
  • Potted History & Potential Future of Genealogy

Why did I want to read this book?

As a 20+ year genealogist and 10+ year military research professional, I purchased Penny’s book to explore the deeper layers of this work I do, that most of us do, that people are not as willing to discuss. As I move more into energy healing, ancestral lineage healing and helping families explore family patterns and go deeper than names, dates, places, battles, etc., Penny’s book shed light on areas in which I have not worked or needed to consider, like Adoption.

Now working with adoptees through private facilitation sessions, I have more tools in my toolbox to help them navigate their journey. I have more questions to ask as they write their stories and explore their personal truths. The remainder of Penny’s book also provides a lot of questions we can ask ourselves or our clients. Broader questions I think that should be discussed in the larger genealogy community also – something many are afraid to do because of taboo subjects and worries about offending someone. I think if we set those things aside and open up to these important questions, we can change and heal so much in our families and histories and the world.

Penny’s book is one I will be recommending to my clients and using further in my many projects, classes, webinars, and research work.

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