Recently in one of the many online classes I’m taking, a verbal confrontation occurred between a few people in the class over current events.  I pay attention to the energy people put out through their bodies, words, attitudes, and what isn’t said but felt. In this case I felt one of the people spoke calmly, discussed her personal experience with the event/issue while another went into victim mode and raged back calling names and shut out all possibility of hearing any other point of view except her own.

This wasn’t the first time I had encountered such strong negative energy from this individual in class when things didn’t go her way. Understanding something about her I am aware there is probably an ancestral lineage and personal life full of trauma and pain. Trauma and pain are one way to more easily enter victim mode. I left the class feeling heavy and asking a lot of questions.

A couple hours later I was in my usual weekly class for my Intuitive Healer Training Program & Certification (IHTP). I felt this class would help me shift out of the heavy energy and I was correct.

It was interesting that during the opening meditation for the IHTP class, I kept getting the word victim where it related to the earlier conversation and one of the participants. Then I heard the words ancestral lineage. I knew then I had to explore this idea of playing the victim (consciously or unconsciously) and using our ancestral lineage as the reason we play the victim.

We all play the victim from time to time


Whether we want to admit it or not, we have all played the victim role/archetype from time to time. It is part of being human. Sometimes this energy is ingrained in us that we don’t even know we are doing it. Other times we use this energy to manipulate or get what we want.  Being the center of attention and getting one’s way can be a powerful addiction for some people. Then there are times when we are doing our inner work and healing and go into this energy but step out of it because we are consciously creating our reality.
 

I admit that during the meditation in IHTP, questions were swirling around this idea of victim energy and ancestral lineage. Plus, how do we play in that energy in our own lives.  I sat with this for several hours before writing this article. There are many questions you can ask around this topic and many rabbit holes you can go down within your personal history and ancestral lineage history to find answers. Here are a few questions to help you.

  1. When and where in my life have I played in victim energy? What was happening to create this response?
  2. Where did that energy come from? My personal history or ancestral history?
  3. Why was I playing in that energy?
  4. When I react or respond to someone while I’m in victim energy – am I explosive, angry, hurtful, tune others out, shut down, leave my body, call names, manipulate or try to control, etc.?
  5. Am I addicted to this energy? Does it create hormones in my body that give me a high?
  6. Was I consciously playing in that energy or at the time was I unaware I was?
  7. Now that I have identified the when, where and why I played in that along with where it came from, what inner work and healing do I need to do to stop playing in that energy?
  8. What changes do I need to make in how I interact with people to shift or stop that victim energy?
  9. What will it take to release this energy from my body and soul and more consciously create my reality?
 
an example of playing in the victim energy

If you have followed me at all the last four years, particularly the last two, you know how difficult life has been on the other side of the ocean with my husband’s declining health. We went through almost two years of questions as to why things were declining. Numerous tests, procedures, and doctor appointments before things got bad and the hospitalizations began.

Dealing with the medical system in another country, one in which citizens are taught to obey their authority figures without question, was extremely difficult for me. As an American who is constantly questioning everything and doing my inner work, I struggled with this limited mindset and I went into victim mode – then took myself out – then went back in – it was almost like riding a surf wave over and over for two years.

How did I play victim? In many ways it was internal – blaming my husband in my head (and sometimes out loud) for not asking questions or being angry with myself for not pushing more or staying with him in the first place (he was diagnosed with 2 cancers right after we met). Oh woe is me I live this life with all this stress and grief. And there was a LOT of grief and many other emotions no one ever taught me about or how to deal with in these circumstances. So I became a victim to all my emotions too.

Then there was the external victim where I lashed out at his friends who of course were in the mindset that you just obey the doctors and keep your mouth closed. None of them understood how difficult and stressful and emotional it was for me to be in a foreign country dealing with hospitals and doctors and fighting for him and keeping all his family and friends updated every time he went in. And I had zero support from them even from the start. So I was going through all this alone. That made me angry and I became the victim. Most of my friends in the U.S. or on social media knew very little about what was happening most of the time.

In and out of that I went and seemed to be better when I was at home and not overseas. Then last July when things got really bad again I said ENOUGH! I was done playing in all this energy – victim, supporter, healer, all of it.

When I chose that – everything changed. 90% of the attachment I felt to my husband and his health dropped away. My body began to relax. My energy shifted. I finally realized this was not in any way in my control and it was all his choice to live or die, stay sick, heal, listen to the docs or not, take care of himself the way the docs said to or not. It didn’t matter what I said or did – it was and is all his choice. Control is a separate issue I’ll probably tackle in another article. 

Did my victim energy come from my ancestors? Looking at my family tree I can see at least one instance where an ancestor probably played in this energy that contributed to this specific instance in which I have been dealing.

Was her victim energy or trauma passed down to me because she dealt with a lot of trauma before she likely went into victim energy? Possibly. Do I blame her? NO. I explore her story and the family’s story. I channel her and others in my writing to ask questions and ask for clarification about what took place. I understand more what happened and I heal these things in myself – which then heals my ancestors. It is not fun to look at these dark shadow sides of myself but it is something I’m willing to do so these patterns and energies do not continue in the future.

 

Using the questions above, we can look at where we have played the victim.

A few tips when we explore this energy.

  1. Do not judge it. We all go into victim mode during our lives – sometimes consciously and sometimes not. However, each of us is on our own journey and each time we acknowledge we play in this energy, we have an opportunity to do deeper work and heal it.
  2. Try to get out of the energy as soon as you realize you are playing in it. This is important so we do not continue to create more of the victim energy and create more conflict and yuck in our lives. Sometimes that conflict leads to the end of relationships we may have held dear.
  3. Be gentle with yourself. As we do our deeper work and heal the dark or shadow parts of ourselves, we must be gentle. No one is perfect and we all have inner work to do.
  4. Do not lay blame. Sometimes the easiest thing to do is blame someone else for our actions or responses. Blaming an ancestor who may have created the energy that was passed down – that we play victim in – is not a constructive way to heal the past and present. If you do lay blame, try to acknowledge you did this and shift the energy. Apologize to your ancestors for blaming and ask them how you can both/all heal.

Sometimes our ancestors are not the ones who perpetuated the victim energy that we play in. Sometimes we learn this from our immediate family or from society growing up. To remain part of a tribe and fit in, we will often imitate those around us, even when we know it is not in our highest good to do so. Asking ourselves to get real about why we are playing the victim is the first step to shifting that energy.

As our world continues to change in 2020 and this decade, taking a truthful look at our energy, our shadow side, our personal and ancestral lineage issues is extremely important so we may heal and shift out of the old energies. Creating a planet on which people can live in harmony, without separation, anger, and hate is what we are headed toward. It takes all of us to wake up and do our part to make this transition easier for everyone. Those who choose to continue playing in these old energies and being the victim and further causing division and anger will not have it easy as we transition.

All of Life is a choice – how do you choose to create your life, living, and reality?

 

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2020 is a year of intense change on the planet. It is what some call The Great Awakening as millions around the world wake up to the games that have been played for centuries. The lies told by the media and government to keep us divided, poor, unable to think for ourselves, to not care for our bodies & souls as we should, and wreak havoc and create trauma for everyone. The lies and manipulation and control of religion to make sure we follow whatever path has been laid out so those in power remain in power and the rest of us feel we have zero choices and are wrong or shamed for any choice we make outside the strict box.

As we sit here in June 2020, just one day after (I hope) all the worldwide riots and protests have stopped, it is time to go within and ask ourselves the hard questions.

 

Am I blindly following my ancestral beliefs and patterns?

We are a combination of our personal experiences in this life plus the experiences and traumas of our ancestors and the collective on earth. 

When we are born, we come into these bodies with our own knowing and beliefs. To fit in with our tribe we marinate in the soup of what our parents believe, how they behave, how our siblings, extended family, and society believe and behave. We learn to adapt to become part of the tribe for survival. Usually it isn’t until much later in life that we stop to explore WHY we believe all we believe and choose to behave as we do. At this point we realize we have a choice in how to create our lives and can let go of our family’s, society’s and the collective’s negative or destructive beliefs.

Each of those who came before us make many choices to survive, based on what they learned from their families, society, religion, and education. Over centuries of programming people into believing certain things – most people don’t even question their beliefs or behavior anymore. Those who are awake – do question.

Often those who are awake are seen as “crazy” or “stupid” or in need of mental health services because the questions we ask, the possibilities and magic of the universe of which we are aware, and the layers of lies we see, according to most people on the planet – couldn’t possibly be true. Therefore there is something really wrong with those of us who are awake and questioning. I mean, if we go against what the media, family, religion, education, government has told us over and over – we can’t possibly be right….can we?

Those who step outside of the box and think for themselves, question everything are often the loners in the family who have said ENOUGH! Enough of the negative patterns. Enough of the old beliefs that only hold me back. Enough of the lack mentality. Enough of not being allowed to be our full and honest selves. Enough of not being able to speak our truths. Enough of ignoring our intuition and invisible guides that surround us always. Enough of keeping people in our lives who do not honor us but only seek to shame, blame, and put us down.

Our ancestors may have not been allowed to do their inner work due to the times in which they lived, but we have a choice now. Moving forward, this will be one way to create our reality on this planet as the earth gets a consciousness upgrade.

 

So what do we do to stop the patterns?

It starts by acknowledging you are a POWERFUL INTUITIVE BEING. Go within and tune into your knowing. Start doing your healing and clearing work to more easily release the old patterns. Start speaking your truth and be true to yourself even if it means you lose family and friends. A new tribe will show up for you. Not all who cross our paths are meant to be in our lives forever. Some are there only for a season to be our greatest teachers to help us learn our harder lessons and become who we are here to be.

Also start ASKING QUESTIONS and RESEARCHING. Ask questions when your intuition tells you something is not quite right. Listen to your body and knowing. Then dig. Explore all those resources outside mainstream media or what social media has programmed you to believe are reliable sources (based on their agenda). Stop looking for the “experts” to only be those with an advanced degree. There are many people on the planet tuning into the universe who have information to share. Many who are in the know but can’t reveal their sources.

They say truth is stranger than fiction. Isn’t that the time we are living in? As more comes to light the rest of 2020, the truth will be stranger and more horrifying than fiction. I have wondered how many of my family and friends will need mental health services when the truth comes out. So many have chosen to label me as in need of services because I’ve tried to wake them up and keep honoring my knowing and do my inner work. But the reality is – I’m more equipped to handle the truth at this point and I do worry about the others who are not.

Do your inner work and honor your truth. I started my conscious spiritual journey 21 December 2012 when many on the planet woke up. Since then I’ve spent thousands of hours a year working on my inner stuff and healing the abuse and trauma in my lineage, with various teachers. I’ve also committed to a meditation practice which has increased tremendously this year. As hard as some of the things that have come up have been, I’m grateful I walked through the fire and was willing to look at the dark parts of myself and my lineage. Had I not – I think I would have been a mess through all the changes this year.

One thing everyone can do is continue planting seeds for those who are not awake. Tell your story and how you chose to wake up and question. How you chose to look at your family patterns and beliefs and let things go. Others will wake up this year as the truth comes out. Those of us who have been doing our work and shining our lights will be needed even more.  It will be a good idea to continue your self-care and spiritual practices and see where you can improve so you remain grounded and sourced as these changes occur.

Finally, we can thank our ancestors and family for their burdens and blessings, beliefs, life, and impact on our lives today. Without them we wouldn’t be here for an exciting time on the planet. One many of us have lived lifetimes for, always hoping peace and abundance would come. It will, be patient and continue doing your work. Shed the old ancestral beliefs and patterns.

 

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There are so many ways to look at our genealogy and military family history in deeper ways than just compiling a family tree. The Genogram, a diagram outlining the history of the behavior patterns (as of divorce, abortion, or suicide) of a family over several generations, is one tool that can be useful to dive deeper into your past and also heal your present.

 

what does a genogram look like?

The best way to show you what a genogram looks like is to give you something interactive. View a short Genogram video depicting the Skywalker family from Star Wars.

how are genograms helpful?

Genograms can show us through various symbols showing relationships, births, marriages, deaths, patterns, and some biographical data, what is happening in a family at a point in time. Therapists use genograms to explore what a new client is dealing with at the time they start therapy. One nice thing about a genogram is it can be continually expanded as new information comes in or the therapy sessions continue.

So if this is a tool for therapists, why should family historians or those seeking to do self-healing use it? I use it because it shows the family patterns and issues we may not otherwise see. Sometimes a visual example is better than a story.

When I completed my genogram in December 2019, while reading the book Family Secrets by John Bradshaw, I was astounded and shocked that I was living pieces of my paternal grandparent’s lives. Not the blessing part of their lives but the burdens. Expanding this again in May 2020 I learned even more patterns I was carrying forward in my life and relationships, not only on the paternal side but the maternal side. John’s book helped me explore many aspects of my family history and he gives many examples of how family historians can use genograms in a simple way.

This knowledge created a turning point for me in which I had to choose to continue these patterns or allow them to surface and look at the dark side of my family and personal history. Look at the choices I’ve made unconsciously, that now I can bring to the conscious level and explore. What is working? What is not? What can I let go of or change? Do I still have to repeat negative or destructive patterns? It is all a choice.

 

Other uses of a genogram for self & family healing

Interestingly, this diagram can be used for so much more than behavioral patterns. We can map out the beliefs and patterns for an individual and family relating to the following topics. This information can help us explore our personal patterns and negative traits in relationship to different areas of our life. Looking at these areas can allow old patterns and inherited ancestral burdens to come out of the dark into the light to look at. Once we are able to look at these things, we can heal and release them so they not longer affect us or our ancestors or descendants.

  • Health history
  • Culture
  • Religion or Spirituality
  • Occupation
  • Ethnicity, Immigration, Migration
  • Business, Government, or other Institutional relationships
  • Play
  • Family Constellations

 

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Family patterns and secrets, the known and unknown, can really create chaos in our lives when not explored, acknowledged and healed. Family Constellations is one way to work with family patterns and explore the past.

Family Constellations is a system created by the late Bert Hellinger to help individuals and families see the known and unknown in a family system (constellation) and work to heal and release those patterns. This is important because we all, consciously or unconsciously, are living pieces of our parents, siblings, or ancestors’ lives, usually in ways that mess us up and keep us stuck.

I learned about Family Constellations several years ago but only in the last year have I really begun to dig into the depths of it. After reading a few books on the subject, I discovered Nikki MacKay, an author, family constellator, and therapist in the U.K. who specializes in this and writes about it in a way anyone can use it. Her methods of explaining how to do a constellation alone or with a group opened up many doors for me.

Nikki’s book Between the Lines. Healing the Individual and Ancestral Soul with Family Constellation is a great starter guide for those like me, who need their hand held a bit more to fully understand this process.

I recently received another one of her books that was published later (more on that in a different article). I think she took sections of her first book and greatly expanded it for the next. I like this approach because it gives people greater choice on how to proceed.

In Between the Lines, Nikki takes us on a journey through Family Constellations and explains in just over 100 pages how to start working with it, the benefits, what entangles us with our ancestors, and possible outcomes. She also explains how some of the entanglements between us and a family member(s) can create continued destructive or negative living patterns in our lives.

For example, through some prior family patterns work and several tools in addition to Nikki’s book, I realized I am living out and standing in for entanglements and issues for my Grandpa Joe and Grandma Libbie. Several things about their lives and the war have affected me. Only I didn’t realize it until last year. There are many similarities between how they lived and patterns I unconsciously recreated in my life and one particular relationship.

When I first realized this late last year it FREAKED ME OUT!  I was angry, scared, happy, uncertain, and many other emotions. To be honest, I’d spent the last 6-7 years focused on my maternal line and the healing I knew I had to do for me and that side. I was ignoring – consciously my paternal side out of fear and other things I couldn’t name until last September when Libbie showed up and gave me some big awareness. Then I started looking more and healing my issues that also come down the ancestral lines from them and even before them.

Reading Nikki’s two books has given me even more tools to use to explore the entanglements and release them. To step into the more authentic ME as I work through the past. To stop repeating relationship patterns and negative things that only mess up my life and joy and really – to some extent my intimate relationship.

So what’s next? Well I plan to finish her other book I bought. Waiting on a third to arrive that she wrote. I will be incorporating her techniques into my personal healing and meditation and journaling sessions. I will also be teaching a little of this in my new Ancestral Souls Healing Circle Membership program I’m launching soon. Join my mailing list today to be first to be notified about the new member area. Important! stay subscribed to all Kajabi marketing emails – those come from me. If you unsubscribe and own any products, you do not receive the emails for those products or the member area.

 

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In my continued study of topics related to personal and ancestral healing, through some conference I registered for online I received an email about a webinar by Troy Love, author of the book Finding Peace. A Workbook on Healing From Loss, Neglect, Rejection, Abandonment, Betrayal, and Abuse.

He had  a free offer of a 5-day email course and after watching his short video about the course, I signed up and then purchased his book.

Books have a way of showing up in my life when I need them or one of my clients needs them. This book showed up for the people in my writing group specifically I discovered, but also for my personal healing.

Troy’s workbook takes you through a group therapy setting in which he introduces the cast of characters and their personal stories. All stories and people are fictional. His chapters then take the group, week by week, through some deep healing. While upon first flip through of the workbook, you may think the worksheets are not that in-depth or “exciting” but they can create massive transformation and deep healing if you do the work.

Chapters:

Week One – The Group and Wound Assessment (Core wounds we suffer)

Week Two – Core Beliefs

Week Three – Core Emotions

Week Four – The Shadows of Shame (there are six

Week Five – Numbing and Mutated Emotions

Week Six – Faith, Hope, and Compassion

Week Seven – Tattoo Removal (the ink stains of core wounds in your heart and body)

Week Eight – Peace and Pain

Throughout the book and each chapter, Troy also has some graphics that clearly show how we start with core wounds and work out through a circle adding layers of beliefs, emotions, shame, etc. This is similar to what I’ve seen in other healing books and classes but presented differently.

I think it’s important to study different teachers and approaches because we will pick something up from one and not another. We all heal and process in different ways.

I recommend this book for anyone starting to look at their personal core wounds, beliefs, emotions and healing. This workbook is easy to use, the narrative he presents for his group meetings give many perspectives of wounds and family history and patterns. It allows us to take personal responsibility for our choices and also to see that we aren’t alone in our wounds and feelings.

Further, I think this book can be used for you alone or in a small group setting, as Troy has illustrated. If you can find a core group of people to work with, create a safe, sacred, open, non-judgmental space – I see this working well.  You do not need to be a therapist to use this workbook.  However, if you feel things are triggering too much, you should consider seeking professional help.

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 I contemplate many questions. Question to which there are no right or wrong answers. Questions that when asked in a safe, sacred space can create beautiful, healing discussions. Warning! This post may trigger some people. There are no right/wrong answers but I do give you a lot of questions to sit with.

 

Is creating division and separation really necessary to do personal, family, ancestral or community healing?

Last fall I read a book My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem about racialized trauma.  While his book is meant to be read over a period of time so people can work through all the exercises he provides, I read the book in about three days. Why?

My learning style, especially with books full of exercises or workbook pages is to read it through then start over. Also, I was hosting a webinar and felt this book would be important to mention. Reading it first to understand what it was about was important.

In this book, to achieve healing and remove white supremacy and racism from the country (his book is focused on America), we must separate and divide to do our work. White bodied people (Resmaa’s words) should do their work. Black/Brown bodied people (his words) should do theirs. Blue bodied people (his words – police) should do their work. It appears only in some cases can we come together to discuss.

Do you agree with this? I have several thoughts/answers to this question. What you feel is up to you. I am presenting different sides of the question to consider.

 

Yes I agree

When I first read the book and then went back through it, I could see why he broke people into groups. Just as it is true that a woman who has never gone through IVF or lost a baby, cannot fully understand what that is like. Or someone who has or had cancer – those who have not cannot fully understand all the mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional things that come up. The same for those who are in white, brown/black or blue bodies. If in this life we are in one particular body with a specific lineage (we won’t even get into past lives) then we cannot fully understand someone else’s life and history. In some ways it makes sense that you would divide and work in groups of people like you with similar stories.

In division there can be created a safe space to discuss what comes up for a specific group – again whether you are talking about racism, cancer, loss, grief, etc.

 

No I do not agree

This is where I started asking questions on the other side. Earlier in 2020 I watched  a webinar Resmaa participated in, in which he talked about racialized trauma and his book concepts. Reading a book is one thing – if you read energy you pick up a certain energy that way. When you see someone teach, speak, online or in person, you have access to another level of energy.

The longer he spoke, the more the energies of anger, frustration, irritation rose. That may not have been apparent to all people watching but for me, being sensitive to energy, it really was. No longer did I feel all good things about his concepts.

I also began to wonder as a facilitator or speaker, should we be grounding and providing the information in a calmer manner, especially if the topic is triggering? Or is there a place for the anger to rise? If it does, will that turn people off from your message?

Recently in speaking with others about the concepts in my ancestral lineage healing group, most people, including those of color, were put off and angry that such a book could be written. After all, aren’t we trying to come together rather than separate?

After explaining the purpose behind it, most people in the conversation could see that perspective. They may not have agreed with it but could understand it. The entire conversation we had, which lasted about a half an hour was beautiful. Peaceful. Healing. Considering we had people in the group of color, white bodied people and at least one whose lineage contained KKK members, most people would think it would erupt into a violent abusive conversation.

It did not. It was healing and beautiful.

There is a part of me that feels the more we divide and encourage division and separation to do our work, the more of that we will see in the world. Where you put your attention and energy is what you create more of – whether you want it or not. 

So if we continue to separate – are we creating more of that?

 

why do we have to divide and separate?

This brings me back to my original question. Why do we have to divide and separate and group people? This world and our country is so full of division. Media and social media have an agenda to continue promoting division, racism, inequality so those who choose to, continue to hate, be abusive, divide, murder, and assault.

More people are waking up to this agenda. More people are doing their personal inner work to heal themselves, their patterns, their lineage, so issues like this will maybe some day cease to exist.

So today I sit on the fence, one leg on each side, contemplating if division is the best way to heal. I can see both sides of the issue and for some people one way works where the other doesn’t.  There is no one right way to heal or do your inner work, no matter what the “experts” and “gurus”  and authors tell you.

 

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For the last decade I’ve studied the deeper layers of genealogy and family history. Explored the darker sides of family and ancestors. Looked at the grief, loss, war, fear they lived with, safety issues that existed, survival instincts, PTSD, inherited trauma and other related topics.

Exploring those topics has helped me do my own healing and today I’d like to talk about our current lives and forced isolation alongside our ancestors’ lives where the issues of fear and safety arise. I will provide just a little information around this topic with resources for you to explore.

fear and safety in our ancestors’ lives

Tregler family in Bohemia

If you look back in your genealogy, you will find many instances where your ancestors were living in fear and were unsure of their personal safety perhaps due to war or famine, political conflicts, immigration, or natural disasters. Those situations may have been shorter term and affected the ancestors for a period of time. They may have learned to live with the new normal that came after. Some may have shoved their emotions and feelings about it all deep inside to carry the rest of their lives while others were able to heal.

In cases where abuse and rape occurred, those fear and safety issues may have lingered the rest of the ancestor’s life. It has only been in more recent times that we are allowed to talk about these things and start to heal.

In either case, we, the descendants of our ancestors, carry their pain, trauma, fear, and safety issues in our DNA.  It is stored in our bodies and within our energy system – the chakras. I can personally say that doing chakra energy healing can shift out a lot of things we carry that aren’t even ours and make a huge difference in how we live. I’ll save that for another article. It will shock you how much we carry that messes us up that isn’t even ours.

Differences between fear & safety then versus now

I think it’s important to acknowledge the farther back we go in our family history, the less 24/7/365 media programming/brainwashing was available. Today we have news stations and social media channels blasting fear and panic over toilet paper, a virus, lockdowns, vaccines, and food shortages and killer hornets, and every other disease and way to die has been cured because CDC says covid is the only way people are dying now (or is it?) all…day…long.

And the narrative keeps changing – have you noticed? We are slowly being programmed to be in fear and rely more on the government and start to fear things outside our homes. There is a quote that goes something like, I never thought I’d see people so afraid to die that they stopped living.

Have you noticed how much of the world has stopped living?

Would you have been so afraid of the virus if the media had not told you to be afraid? Especially when studies are coming out now that show us it is less deadly than the flu? That the majority of people dying are in nursing homes (which already had care issues?)

Have you noticed the media said there will be no toilet paper so everyone ran out to buy it? We’ll be locked in our homes for decades – so there was a run on food? We can’t open the country safely unless we have a vaccine (even though Fauci said in the Senate Hearing yesterday the vaccine may not work or create more issues for those with prior health issues) – even though there are therapeutics that work (see latest France and Italy studies and what’s coming out in America outside of mainstream media.)

Why were we never told to be afraid when H1N1 came out in 2009? How many of us were so sick with that flu and the country stayed open? No shortage on toilet paper or food… makes you question right?  I remember being sicker than I’d ever been with three kids ages 8 and 4 (twins) to take care of and the government didn’t shut down the world.

Now look at your ancestors…

Less media interference may have created fewer issues with fear and safety. When you examine the propaganda/news created for WWII to get families to buy into the war effort THEN look at the propaganda/news created for WWI (a generation prior) and THEN look at propaganda/news for the generation before that, what do you notice?  

  1. What kind of media did our ancestors have access to?
  2. Our parents? I’m 47 and my parents had access to TV, radio, magazines, and newspapers.
  3. My grandparents? TV (after WWII), radio, magazines, and newspapers.
  4. My great grandparents? Radio, magazines, newspapers. If they could read.
  5. My great great grandparents? Magazines, Newspapers, pamphlets (at least in the U.S. – in Europe I’m not sure as they were peasants and likely couldn’t read). Word of mouth news which as we know often is distored.

Start Asking questions

  1. What events did my ancestors go through that created fear?
  2. What events did my ancestors go through that created safety issues?
  3. How did my ancestors handle these events? (Did they ignore their emotions and push it down? Did they talk about it? Use faith/religion to see them through? Talk it out with a therapist or other healer?)
  4. How much have I bought into the fear propagated by the media and social media which is showing one side of the story?
  5. How am I handling this fear and concern over safety? Or am I content letting the governors take away my rights and force me to stay home where my finances are suffering, my health is suffering (mental and physical), my business may be suffering or I lose my job, my kids are suffering on many levels.
  6. What emotions and thoughts keep coming up for me throughout this lockdown? WHOSE thoughts and emotions are they? Mine or my ancestors? Mine or my friends?
  7. What fear or safety based issues keep coming up for me? Journal on this.
  8. What can I do to let go and release these thoughts and emotions that are not mine? Therapy, call a suicide prevention line, energy healing, chakra healing, journaling, exercise, etc.
These are only a few questions and areas to explore in your life and that of your ancestors’ lives. We are at a pivotal moment in history where we need to be exploring these issues and questions. To heal and release all those things that don’t serve us, but certainly mess up our lives. To ask more questions about the narrative being pushed on us all day long. To start LIVING again and making choices that align with our true heart and soul. Possibly the most important thing to start doing: Stop blaming everyone else for the choices you are making. You might read my other articles on these topics:

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As we navigate this worldwide purging, cleansing, and transformation on the planet, people are reacting in many different ways. Have you noticed this? It is almost as if people have forgotten we are allowed to be different. We are allowed to have different beliefs. This country was founded on people having different beliefs and we were given the rights to this. Yet, the longer the worldwide lockdown goes, the more division we see. The more anger, verbal abuse, and hate we see popping up online -from people who IN REAL LIFE would never say those things to us.

My role here is to invite you to question your beliefs and look at where you function from. Agree with what I pose here or don’t. Like the questions or don’t. Choose to shift into a different energy or don’t.  Keep me as a contact/family member/friend or don’t. It doesn’t matter to me. It’s all a choice.  You have a choice in how you live your life. I’m here to present questions and options. You do what you want. I’m going to create my life in a way that is true for my heart and soul whether you agree with how I do it or not.

It’s all a choice.

 

people have forgotten they have a choice

  • Have you noticed how people we once thought of as family who loved us react in abusive, hateful ways to things we say or post online because our beliefs and choices do not align with theirs?
  • Have you noticed how people we once considered intelligent critical thinkers follow the herd and fear based information and go after anyone who posts something that contradicts their beliefs?
  • Have you noticed people who are FB friends or contacts on other platforms who never interact with you are suddenly trolling your posts to just verbally puke on you because you don’t align with their beliefs? Do they get all excited over trolling posts? That’s a destructive energy they are playing in. Do you like that energy?
  • Have you noticed how people we thought were one thing (because we labeled them as such) are really so much more?
  • Have you noticed you are not alone in your beliefs – that there are people out there who get you and you can be a support to each other?
  • Is there anything else you have noticed I didn’t mention?
  • Have you been surprised at who has come out to attack you because you believe something different? Or that you share something alternative to mainstream media/herd mentality beliefs and brainwashing?
  • Have you noticed there is a serious divide about those who believe the herd mentality that EVERYONE should stay home because of a virus that is not as deadly as the flu BUT because the media told you it will kill you – you believe it? Have you noticed no one ever cared about the numbers of people who die on a daily basis NO MATTER WHAT is happening on the planet but are VERY upset about the virus deaths? Does this mean those other deaths never mattered?

you have a choice in how you react or respond

EVERYONE has a choice in how the react or respond to things that frazzle their brain. Create cognitive dissonance. Go against their ingrained beliefs. Yet with the domination of censorship and an agenda to create fear, division, hate, and anger on all media channels both online and offline, people have allowed themselves to be conditioned (brainwashed) into believing their way/beliefs are the only ones allowed. People in general stopped questioning things they intuitively know are wrong or go against their beliefs.

What else contributes to this? Constant violence and sex glorification/abuse we see everywhere we look. People don’t even question it most of the time – they just say PRAY FOR… rather than doing anything to change things. The violence and sex continue to create fear based responses and PTSD type triggers in us. It changes our bodies, brains, nervous systems, responses and reactions to things. Sometimes we don’t even realize it has happened until we blow up or get really sick because the programming of society has been a slow constant drip for decades.

No one questions it. But it has left people in fight or flight states often and they forgot they had a choice in how they respond, react, or live their lives.

We all have a choice in how we live our lives. Who we allow to be in our space. What choices we make. What we believe to be TRUE for us. It doesn’t matter what other people think.

 

how do we change this?

Change starts with each of us individually.

  1. We need to start looking at our own beliefs and responses. Ask the hard questions about WHY do we respond or react this way? What happened to us throughout our lives that created this “monster” inside us that feels it has to lash out at anything different?
  2. Ask yourself why you feel the need to troll people’s social media so you can “feel good” about how much hate and verbal abuse you spew at them because they disagree with what you believe. Get real with it and start to change it.
  3. Look at your family history. We all inherit trauma from our ancestors going back several generations. Sometimes our reactions to things are so decontextualized we don’t even know why we react or respond in a certain way. This is good to acknowledge and start to work on to release.
  4. We need to start doing our inner work to allow the dark parts of ourselves, the fear based parts, and the wounded parts to surface. Once things go from unconscious to conscious, we can look at them, heal and release them. DARK TO LIGHT.
  5. How do we do this? Some people rely on religion and faith. Others doing energy healing or spiritual work. There are more than a hundred different modalities to help shift your beliefs and energy and release the past. There are many different options and a lot of information online and in books and classes to explore.

We are moving into a new era of life on this planet. One in which we will have greater freedoms, greater choice, more equality, and more options to create the life we truly desire. The questions for you are:

  1. What kind of life do you really want to live?
  2. What kind of energy do you want to play in?
  3. What kind of people do you want in your life – those who help keep you in fear-based and negative living or those who help raise you up and support you to create something greater?

Please share this article widely so more people will consider their choices.

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Does the question I posted in the title of this article trigger you in some way? If so, then I have your attention. My target for this article is that you open your heart and mind and help you begin to question your reality.

As the world sits in their homes for the better part of the last month and a half or longer, we are learning a new way of BEING, THINKING, FEELING, HEALING, and CHOOSING. Many call this The Great Awakening. Many are choosing to exit the Matrix (a land where we are controlled, programmed, used as slaves for a select few.)

The old way is gone and will not return. We must ask ourselves, ‘What do I need to look at within myself to contribute to the changes on this planet? What healing do I need to do so we can go from dark to light? What are all the things in my life that have kept me under someone else’s control or have programmed me to believe things that aren’t actually true for ME? What are things that have kept the human race DIVIDED and in an energy of ANGER and HATE?’

 

“The Matrix is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth.” Morpheus in the movie The Matrix.

The choice to know will be yours. What will you choose?

I used Genealogy here as one of many ways we allow the matrix to control us. Divide us. Make us blind to the truth. We could substitute any number of things we enjoy or are involved in (Education, Religion, Politics, Exclusive Organizations, etc.

The main questions to ask yourself are, How does my participation in this [whatever you chose] keep me bound in the matrix? Or am I aware it is a tool and I can use it for other purposes?

Let’s explore both sides of this question.

Is Genealogy a tool of the matrix?

First of all, I’m going to give you only a few examples on both sides of this question. It is up to you to delve deeper and consider how YOU feel about this question. To wake up and make new choices about how you use genealogy, or any other hobby, job, religion, political affiliation, etc. to stay in the programmed and controlled state you are in. We are all in various stages of this, though many are breaking free of this and raising their level of consciousness to make new choices for the new reality we are moving into.

Before we dive in – remember – no one is perfect. These questions are asked for you to look at your beliefs and choices in a non-judgmental way. We all are here to grow and change. If we can stop judging ourselves and others, change comes much faster.

Yes

In what ways is genealogy a tool of the matrix and how does it keep us programmed and under control? How does genealogy potentially keep us divided and in a negative energy state?

Well, we have DNA research. Not only do large companies have our DNA, but if you’ve been paying attention the last several years, most have given access to many law enforcement agencies without user permission. You have to ask – who else did they give my DNA to?

While we are on the subject of DNA – the results may create division as we separate ourselves by race or into ethnic groups or regions of the world. This can become a “my ethnicity or region is better than yours” issue. It can also create division when people are unaware they have family of Jewish descent or who came from Africa. Racism and division has not gone away yet on this planet.

Race, Ethnicity, Gender. Next we can explore tools like the Census that require a lot of personal information from us and our ancestors that allows people to be grouped and divided. Even though many people recognize that during the largest immigration to the U.S. between 1880 and 1920, and even before that as waves of different ethnic groups came over – there was a lot of discrimination and division.  Remember how Irish and Italians were the “lesser people” until new groups immigrated?

This still happens today. It has been programmed into us whether we admit it or not.

Superiority Issues, Cliques, and Division. Have you noticed there are a lot of specialized groups available to those who fit a certain criteria? If you are willing to do the work to prove you belong? If you are willing to pay the fees to join? Think Mayflower Society, DAR, SAR, Daughters of the Confederacy, and there are so … many … more.

Have you ever considered why you choose to join these groups? What did they promote when they began? What do they stand for today? What do they promote? Why do we honor still today people and groups who promoted colonialism, destruction of native peoples, raping of the land, and slavery? Unfortunately within many organizations (genealogy or otherwise), if you aren’t part of the “club” you aren’t as valuable. Is that really the reality you choose to live in? Are those the beliefs you choose to have and promote?

Yes, these are hard questions to ask ourselves and until recently, people have not bothered to ask or been brave enough to ask. Even those people who are not affiliated with any of these groups – it is still in our DNA, passed down through our ancestors, a programming around race, colonialism, white bodied people versus everyone else. It is something everyone should look at within themselves.

Want to learn more about this specific question and the concept of White Supremacy? Read Resemma Menakem’s My Grandmother’s Hands, and open up to where all of this really came from and why people, even outside America, are still programmed to believe certain things about where we came from and who is “superior” and “worthy.”

No

Now let’s briefly explore the other side of this question. In what ways can we break free from the matrix and not allow genealogy to program and control us?

DNA Research. We can use DNA research in a more respectful way and push for companies to not sell or grant access but instead, use our DNA for what we signed up for.  We can use it not for division but inclusion and creation. What kind of world can we create where we see everyone as valuable and equal regardless of ethnicity, race, gender, etc.? What kind of world can we create where vaccines will not put a microchip in us to be used to control our every move and choice? Are you ready to give up your freedom? I invite you to do some research on this right now.

Race, Ethnicity, Gender. Rather than dividing people based on these things through genealogy research, why not embrace the differences? Each person, regardless of race, ethnicity, gender, job, political or religious affiliation, are on this planet for a purpose. We are all valuable. We all have something to contribute.

Superiority Issues, Cliques, and Division. In this new reality we are co-creating through this “Covid-19” military operation, my hope is we will all make choices that break down the barriers that once existed where only certain people are valuable. My hope is that those who have created these cliques and divisions will re-evaluate. Let’s be honest – even as adults – most of us experience the “high school cliques” energy. Is that really where you want to play or is some greater more abundant, expansive energy available?

Where in your life are you in an energy of being superior? Where have you formed cliques that exclude others because of (race, religion, they don’t have the right pedigree, they don’t believe in x, y, z, they are the wrong political party, etc.?) Isn’t it time we go deep within and get honest about where we function from? Is it time to look at the organizations to which we belong and ask if they really promote the values we choose to live by? Do we really need to continue to create so much division in the world?

Let’s explore inherited trauma and the “bad” guys

Finally, let’s look at inherited trauma and the “bad” people in our families. There is a lot of energy being played with on social media where people think it is funny they have a criminal of any kind in their family tree. It’s a competition to see who has the worst offender. I question why this is funny for you and would you consider it funny if your descendants laughed at things you did? This energy is another way to create division and programming.

For those who are hiding their “bad” ancestors, I invite you question why? That which remains hidden or ignored still affects us. I’m not saying bring it out into the public spotlight but do your inner work and choose how and who you will reveal the information to when the time is right.

Rather than play in this energy of “bad guy competition”, can we stop and explore who this person was, what they allegedly did, and the possible reasons for their actions? Whether you believe it or not, their actions affect you today. Their DNA is part of yours. This is another way to exit the Matrix. Our ancestors made choices that we should not be judging. We were not there to understand and see the other choices which led to that final choice or action.

Not only do we have to look at that within our families and ourselves, but we also have inherited trauma that is passed down. The best studies on this have been with Jewish Holocaust Survivors and their children and grandchildren.  Their experiences, emotions, feelings, and whether or not they healed them, affect us today.

The problem is, our ancestors’ experiences and feelings are so decontextualized within our bodies and subconscious that when we are triggered over something that “shouldn’t be an issue” we don’t understand it and may react in negative ways.

Part of breaking free from the matrix is using our genealogy research and military research to go deeper into the lives and experiences and feelings of our ancestors to better understand what we carry in our DNA today.

That deeper work is what I have been focusing on with clients and myself for the last three years. We can use genealogy and military research to deprogram ourselves. To heal ourselves and our lineage in the past, present, and future if we choose it.

Question everything. choose something greater. create change in your life and the world. we are being given time to go within. we are being given an opportunity to create great change.

 

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What we know about our ancestors can be deep seated within us……” Cheri Daniels

FAMILY STORIES

RootsTech 2020 had a couple of interesting programs that were live streamed on the concept of healing and ancestral trauma.  So far I watched one of the two. Cheri Daniels’ Tackling Difficult Chapters of our Family History. 

If you have the RootsTech app you may still be able to download her handout. It has some good information in it.

I appreciated Cheri’s description of difficult family stories and chapters. Her family is completely different from mine and has been in the U.S. much longer. She brought up a lot of topics that I would never see in my history, but that some of my clients might. Though overall, many of her family’s difficult chapters included some form of what all of our families include: GRIEF, LOSS, INFIDELITY, ABUSE, RAPE, RELIGIOUS AND POLITICAL ISSUES, ADDICTION, PTSD, VIOLENCE, and so many other topics. These are all topics we can explore within our own family stories and our personal lives and start to process.

Cheri mentioned many times during her talk that she is not her ancestor’s therapist. On one level I can agree with that. On another I can’t due to the education I’ve had with ancestral lineage and energy healing. While we may not function as our ancestor’s therapist, through our exploration of our personal issues, triggers, baggage, whatever you want to call it, we do serve as their therapist as we unpack it all, process it, and hopefully heal it. There are a lot of ways to explore this idea and I encourage you to consider how you are either being a therapist or not.

Cheri gave a lot of good tips on how to handle the difficult things that come up through numerous examples of her own family’s stories. You might be surprised at the things she shares, which I applaud her for sharing. There are too many people pushing us to keep things quiet and shoved under the carpet, especially within the genealogy community, out of fear. Fear is a big reason there are so many secrets, lies, and patterns in our families. Fear is not real and we can go into our research and analysis, discovery, processing and healing with a non-judgmental, non-fearful lens and energetic space. This is important so we not only process what was but do not re-attach to it and continue the patterns or cycles.

I encourage you to watch the video replay while it is available on the RootsTech website. I also encourage you to start journaling your difficult chapters and see what new information comes from that point of view before you dive back into records or oral history. I wonder what you will discover and heal.

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