Since I began traveling in Europe in 2015, I have visited many WWI and WWII museums, concentration camps, memorials, battlefields, cemeteries, destroyed villages, bomb craters, and other places in which sad/bad/negative/evil things took place. Being an empath I tend to feel much of the energy in these spaces, whether than is positive or negative. I know many of my readers experience similar things. How often do you consider the emotions these places create in you that can be used for change and healing? Or do you experience them for a moment and brush them off and move on?

Dachau ovens. Photo by author.

I read an article recently called, Why We Should Visit Museums That Make Us Think and Cry. I tend to feel, think, and cry in many places I visit so this article really called to my soul. The article focuses more on human and civil rights museums rather than military, but the concept is still the same.

“It’s really important to consider historic and contemporary issues from multiple perspectives so we can combat bias and prejudice – which we might not even realize we have until presented with an alternative view. This is fundamental to understanding and promoting human rights.” Throughout history, and even today, we can see patterns of denial and minimization of human-rights atrocities, along with efforts to silence the survivors and witnesses. These issues are not easy or comfortable, but it’s our role and responsibility to provoke thought and conversation that leads to education – which is the most powerful force for human rights in the world.”

Dr. Jodi Giesbrecht, CMHR director of research and head curator

Why Are These Spaces Important?

These spaces are important because for many of us, not all, they create conversation. Often we will visit places like this with someone. As we wander through an exhibit, a cemetery, a concentration camp, or other place, things call to us that we must comment on. Through conversation we hear someone else’s point of view about what is being expressed in the exhibit, etc. Conversation may create questions or points of view for us to sit with, meditate on, journal on, that we had not considered.

These spaces through conversation, meditation, thinking, push us to feel something more than we might have just reading an article or seeing someone’s vacation photos on Facebook. This may then create the need in us to do something about the issues we now know more about. This includes things from history like the Holocaust or combat in World War II.

How can we do something about those issues since they are in the past? Many people are still dealing with the trauma and effects of these events, among many others that have happened in our collective history. Inherited trauma creates in the descendants of those who participated or lived through these events, issues that create chaos, depression, sadness, anxiety or panic and many other things in their lives. Unresolved grief can devastate a family for generations. Yet by visiting these places that evoke emotions and thought, we can best determine how we personally should move forward to help heal the collective.

Doing something could be that we start talking with our own families about their experiences in the war, civil rights, genocide, Holocaust, or other collective trauma events. Writing those stories, learning the lessons, and sharing with others – even within our family – will help.

My belief and what I have experienced throughout my career as a family and military researcher is that if I can impact ONE person, it will ripple out beyond anything I can imagine. Some people do not believe this. They believe you have to stand and speak in front of thousands to have any effect on change or healing. That isn’t my belief. I have seen that if I help one person – teach one person – facilitate some healing in one person – they will go on to do more and tell others what their experience was and how the learned/changed/healed – and that may inspire someone else to look at their life and beliefs and make changes.

What is Your Experience in These Places?

What have you experienced in these places? Where did you go? What happened while you were there? What thoughts and changes did you make? What conversations did you have? How did it impact your life, living, and reality? I’d love to hear from you in the comments.

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“While there has been abundant research quantifying war’s psychological impact, much of it has focused on PTSD, depression, and substance or alcohol abuse associated with combat exposure, there has been limited focus on grief among veterans.”

Pauline Lubens

UCI Studies Grief in Veterans

In World War I we heard the term SHELL SHOCK. In World War II we heard COMBAT FATIGUE. After Vietnam we didn’t hear much new unless it was in regard to how many Americans viewed returning veterans in a negative light. Then by the 1980s we had PTSD to label veterans suffering from a variety of illnesses that were previously undiagnosed or ignored.

PTSD trickles down through our DNA into future generations. Growing up in a household where PTSD exists can create this in children and other family members. Any traumatic situation we find ourselves in can create PTSD symptoms.

With all the studies on PTSD and veterans, one primary component, especially when we look at veteran suicide is GRIEF. Yet, grief has not been studied until recently. Grief also creates issues for not only the veteran but the family and friends close to the veteran.

Unresolved, unacknowledged grief over what someone did in combat, or did not do, who they lost, survivor’s guilt and sadness of being the only one left, and many other ways veterans hold grief all contribute to their state of mind, the life they live, the joy (or lack of )they feel. This unresolved grief also affects those closest to them.

Finally, the University of California Irvine conducted a study on grief in veterans. You can read about it here. It is interesting what they discovered and how it deeply affects veterans, even separately from any PTSD they may have or had, and how it affects families.

A radio interview was done with the Ph.D. student who conducted the study and several listeners called in to contribute to the conversation, including a female Graves Registration Service soldier. The interview is powerful and full of many themes I feel we should all be exploring with our own families – even if we have to go back to our WWII or Korean War veterans to ask questions and look for family patterns. Grief is something passed down also.

Exploring Grief in Your Family History

In our society we are taught/trained/told to buck up, shove things inside, deal with it and move on, or solve a problem, when we talk about grief. We are given 2-3 days of leave from our jobs if someone in the family dies. Apparently all we need is 2-3 days to deal with arrangements, grieve, forget and move on. Our western society has not done a good job helping people to learn how to grieve, or explain why it is important to do so.

I invite you to explore the times and places in your life and family history where there was an opportunity to grieve and instead you pushed it away or did not fully deal with it. Consider the cost of that to yourself, your health, your family life, your history. How did your family veterans handle grief? How did their spouses and children? How do you? How can you begin to change this?

Grief Resources

Do you need a resource to help you? I am taking a couple of courses with Shauna Janz through Sacred Grief. I am finding these grieving courses extremely helpful. I encourage you to check them out. I wrote an article about her Healing Conversations class here.

The website What’s Your Grief is also full of resources and articles. Have you explored this site?


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Question 1 July 2020

How are your ancestors connecting with you the last month? Do they appear as symbols? Flowers, feathers, coins, songs, books? Do they appear visually to you?

What wisdom are they passing to you during this incredible transformative energy period since end of May?

 

Please comment below to share with others if you feel comfortable.

I also invite you to journal on this question on your own.

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 I contemplate many questions. Question to which there are no right or wrong answers. Questions that when asked in a safe, sacred space can create beautiful, healing discussions. Warning! This post may trigger some people. There are no right/wrong answers but I do give you a lot of questions to sit with.

 

Is creating division and separation really necessary to do personal, family, ancestral or community healing?

Last fall I read a book My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem about racialized trauma.  While his book is meant to be read over a period of time so people can work through all the exercises he provides, I read the book in about three days. Why?

My learning style, especially with books full of exercises or workbook pages is to read it through then start over. Also, I was hosting a webinar and felt this book would be important to mention. Reading it first to understand what it was about was important.

In this book, to achieve healing and remove white supremacy and racism from the country (his book is focused on America), we must separate and divide to do our work. White bodied people (Resmaa’s words) should do their work. Black/Brown bodied people (his words) should do theirs. Blue bodied people (his words – police) should do their work. It appears only in some cases can we come together to discuss.

Do you agree with this? I have several thoughts/answers to this question. What you feel is up to you. I am presenting different sides of the question to consider.

 

Yes I agree

When I first read the book and then went back through it, I could see why he broke people into groups. Just as it is true that a woman who has never gone through IVF or lost a baby, cannot fully understand what that is like. Or someone who has or had cancer – those who have not cannot fully understand all the mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional things that come up. The same for those who are in white, brown/black or blue bodies. If in this life we are in one particular body with a specific lineage (we won’t even get into past lives) then we cannot fully understand someone else’s life and history. In some ways it makes sense that you would divide and work in groups of people like you with similar stories.

In division there can be created a safe space to discuss what comes up for a specific group – again whether you are talking about racism, cancer, loss, grief, etc.

 

No I do not agree

This is where I started asking questions on the other side. Earlier in 2020 I watched  a webinar Resmaa participated in, in which he talked about racialized trauma and his book concepts. Reading a book is one thing – if you read energy you pick up a certain energy that way. When you see someone teach, speak, online or in person, you have access to another level of energy.

The longer he spoke, the more the energies of anger, frustration, irritation rose. That may not have been apparent to all people watching but for me, being sensitive to energy, it really was. No longer did I feel all good things about his concepts.

I also began to wonder as a facilitator or speaker, should we be grounding and providing the information in a calmer manner, especially if the topic is triggering? Or is there a place for the anger to rise? If it does, will that turn people off from your message?

Recently in speaking with others about the concepts in my ancestral lineage healing group, most people, including those of color, were put off and angry that such a book could be written. After all, aren’t we trying to come together rather than separate?

After explaining the purpose behind it, most people in the conversation could see that perspective. They may not have agreed with it but could understand it. The entire conversation we had, which lasted about a half an hour was beautiful. Peaceful. Healing. Considering we had people in the group of color, white bodied people and at least one whose lineage contained KKK members, most people would think it would erupt into a violent abusive conversation.

It did not. It was healing and beautiful.

There is a part of me that feels the more we divide and encourage division and separation to do our work, the more of that we will see in the world. Where you put your attention and energy is what you create more of – whether you want it or not. 

So if we continue to separate – are we creating more of that?

 

why do we have to divide and separate?

This brings me back to my original question. Why do we have to divide and separate and group people? This world and our country is so full of division. Media and social media have an agenda to continue promoting division, racism, inequality so those who choose to, continue to hate, be abusive, divide, murder, and assault.

More people are waking up to this agenda. More people are doing their personal inner work to heal themselves, their patterns, their lineage, so issues like this will maybe some day cease to exist.

So today I sit on the fence, one leg on each side, contemplating if division is the best way to heal. I can see both sides of the issue and for some people one way works where the other doesn’t.  There is no one right way to heal or do your inner work, no matter what the “experts” and “gurus”  and authors tell you.

 

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Does the question I posted in the title of this article trigger you in some way? If so, then I have your attention. My target for this article is that you open your heart and mind and help you begin to question your reality.

As the world sits in their homes for the better part of the last month and a half or longer, we are learning a new way of BEING, THINKING, FEELING, HEALING, and CHOOSING. Many call this The Great Awakening. Many are choosing to exit the Matrix (a land where we are controlled, programmed, used as slaves for a select few.)

The old way is gone and will not return. We must ask ourselves, ‘What do I need to look at within myself to contribute to the changes on this planet? What healing do I need to do so we can go from dark to light? What are all the things in my life that have kept me under someone else’s control or have programmed me to believe things that aren’t actually true for ME? What are things that have kept the human race DIVIDED and in an energy of ANGER and HATE?’

 

“The Matrix is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth.” Morpheus in the movie The Matrix.

The choice to know will be yours. What will you choose?

I used Genealogy here as one of many ways we allow the matrix to control us. Divide us. Make us blind to the truth. We could substitute any number of things we enjoy or are involved in (Education, Religion, Politics, Exclusive Organizations, etc.

The main questions to ask yourself are, How does my participation in this [whatever you chose] keep me bound in the matrix? Or am I aware it is a tool and I can use it for other purposes?

Let’s explore both sides of this question.

Is Genealogy a tool of the matrix?

First of all, I’m going to give you only a few examples on both sides of this question. It is up to you to delve deeper and consider how YOU feel about this question. To wake up and make new choices about how you use genealogy, or any other hobby, job, religion, political affiliation, etc. to stay in the programmed and controlled state you are in. We are all in various stages of this, though many are breaking free of this and raising their level of consciousness to make new choices for the new reality we are moving into.

Before we dive in – remember – no one is perfect. These questions are asked for you to look at your beliefs and choices in a non-judgmental way. We all are here to grow and change. If we can stop judging ourselves and others, change comes much faster.

Yes

In what ways is genealogy a tool of the matrix and how does it keep us programmed and under control? How does genealogy potentially keep us divided and in a negative energy state?

Well, we have DNA research. Not only do large companies have our DNA, but if you’ve been paying attention the last several years, most have given access to many law enforcement agencies without user permission. You have to ask – who else did they give my DNA to?

While we are on the subject of DNA – the results may create division as we separate ourselves by race or into ethnic groups or regions of the world. This can become a “my ethnicity or region is better than yours” issue. It can also create division when people are unaware they have family of Jewish descent or who came from Africa. Racism and division has not gone away yet on this planet.

Race, Ethnicity, Gender. Next we can explore tools like the Census that require a lot of personal information from us and our ancestors that allows people to be grouped and divided. Even though many people recognize that during the largest immigration to the U.S. between 1880 and 1920, and even before that as waves of different ethnic groups came over – there was a lot of discrimination and division.  Remember how Irish and Italians were the “lesser people” until new groups immigrated?

This still happens today. It has been programmed into us whether we admit it or not.

Superiority Issues, Cliques, and Division. Have you noticed there are a lot of specialized groups available to those who fit a certain criteria? If you are willing to do the work to prove you belong? If you are willing to pay the fees to join? Think Mayflower Society, DAR, SAR, Daughters of the Confederacy, and there are so … many … more.

Have you ever considered why you choose to join these groups? What did they promote when they began? What do they stand for today? What do they promote? Why do we honor still today people and groups who promoted colonialism, destruction of native peoples, raping of the land, and slavery? Unfortunately within many organizations (genealogy or otherwise), if you aren’t part of the “club” you aren’t as valuable. Is that really the reality you choose to live in? Are those the beliefs you choose to have and promote?

Yes, these are hard questions to ask ourselves and until recently, people have not bothered to ask or been brave enough to ask. Even those people who are not affiliated with any of these groups – it is still in our DNA, passed down through our ancestors, a programming around race, colonialism, white bodied people versus everyone else. It is something everyone should look at within themselves.

Want to learn more about this specific question and the concept of White Supremacy? Read Resemma Menakem’s My Grandmother’s Hands, and open up to where all of this really came from and why people, even outside America, are still programmed to believe certain things about where we came from and who is “superior” and “worthy.”

No

Now let’s briefly explore the other side of this question. In what ways can we break free from the matrix and not allow genealogy to program and control us?

DNA Research. We can use DNA research in a more respectful way and push for companies to not sell or grant access but instead, use our DNA for what we signed up for.  We can use it not for division but inclusion and creation. What kind of world can we create where we see everyone as valuable and equal regardless of ethnicity, race, gender, etc.? What kind of world can we create where vaccines will not put a microchip in us to be used to control our every move and choice? Are you ready to give up your freedom? I invite you to do some research on this right now.

Race, Ethnicity, Gender. Rather than dividing people based on these things through genealogy research, why not embrace the differences? Each person, regardless of race, ethnicity, gender, job, political or religious affiliation, are on this planet for a purpose. We are all valuable. We all have something to contribute.

Superiority Issues, Cliques, and Division. In this new reality we are co-creating through this “Covid-19” military operation, my hope is we will all make choices that break down the barriers that once existed where only certain people are valuable. My hope is that those who have created these cliques and divisions will re-evaluate. Let’s be honest – even as adults – most of us experience the “high school cliques” energy. Is that really where you want to play or is some greater more abundant, expansive energy available?

Where in your life are you in an energy of being superior? Where have you formed cliques that exclude others because of (race, religion, they don’t have the right pedigree, they don’t believe in x, y, z, they are the wrong political party, etc.?) Isn’t it time we go deep within and get honest about where we function from? Is it time to look at the organizations to which we belong and ask if they really promote the values we choose to live by? Do we really need to continue to create so much division in the world?

Let’s explore inherited trauma and the “bad” guys

Finally, let’s look at inherited trauma and the “bad” people in our families. There is a lot of energy being played with on social media where people think it is funny they have a criminal of any kind in their family tree. It’s a competition to see who has the worst offender. I question why this is funny for you and would you consider it funny if your descendants laughed at things you did? This energy is another way to create division and programming.

For those who are hiding their “bad” ancestors, I invite you question why? That which remains hidden or ignored still affects us. I’m not saying bring it out into the public spotlight but do your inner work and choose how and who you will reveal the information to when the time is right.

Rather than play in this energy of “bad guy competition”, can we stop and explore who this person was, what they allegedly did, and the possible reasons for their actions? Whether you believe it or not, their actions affect you today. Their DNA is part of yours. This is another way to exit the Matrix. Our ancestors made choices that we should not be judging. We were not there to understand and see the other choices which led to that final choice or action.

Not only do we have to look at that within our families and ourselves, but we also have inherited trauma that is passed down. The best studies on this have been with Jewish Holocaust Survivors and their children and grandchildren.  Their experiences, emotions, feelings, and whether or not they healed them, affect us today.

The problem is, our ancestors’ experiences and feelings are so decontextualized within our bodies and subconscious that when we are triggered over something that “shouldn’t be an issue” we don’t understand it and may react in negative ways.

Part of breaking free from the matrix is using our genealogy research and military research to go deeper into the lives and experiences and feelings of our ancestors to better understand what we carry in our DNA today.

That deeper work is what I have been focusing on with clients and myself for the last three years. We can use genealogy and military research to deprogram ourselves. To heal ourselves and our lineage in the past, present, and future if we choose it.

Question everything. choose something greater. create change in your life and the world. we are being given time to go within. we are being given an opportunity to create great change.

 

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Over the last few years I have begun studying different aspects of ancestral lineage healing, family patterns, family secrets, and other topics as they related to my military and family history. Many of my clients have also been seeking resources around these topics. I have one to suggest to those just dipping their toes into this pool. Healing Ancestral Karma by Dr. Steven Farmer

I discovered Dr. Farmer through The Shift Network when I received an email for his class “The 5 Ancestral Realms” in the fall of 2019. The class description gave a different view of working with the ancestors than Dr. Daniel Foor in his book and course (which I’m taking currently). After signing up for Dr. Farmer’s course, I ordered his book. The book wasn’t required for the course but contributed to what I was learning.

The book has short chapters which make absorbing the information easier. Reading the book I was also introduced to many others books, which of course I had to purchase, to add to my ancestor education. Reviews on those will be scattered over the next few months.

Healing Ancestral Karma provides primary sections on:

  • Getting Acquainted with the Ancestors
  • Making Contact with the Ancestors
  • Healing Ancestral Family Patterns

Within those sections he introduces readers to these topics and many more:

  • Making contact with your ancestors.
  • Contacting spirit and animal guides.
  • Energy, DNA, and Ancestors
  • Mediumship
  • Automatic Writing
  • Shamanism
  • Family Secrets
  • PTSD
  • Creating a family altar

I walked away from this book with some new strategies to work with ancestors and new ways to create rituals and family altars. Whether you have been doing energy and ancestor work for years or are just getting started, this book will contribute to your practice.

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