Recently in one of the many online classes I’m taking, a verbal confrontation occurred between a few people in the class over current events.  I pay attention to the energy people put out through their bodies, words, attitudes, and what isn’t said but felt. In this case I felt one of the people spoke calmly, discussed her personal experience with the event/issue while another went into victim mode and raged back calling names and shut out all possibility of hearing any other point of view except her own.

This wasn’t the first time I had encountered such strong negative energy from this individual in class when things didn’t go her way. Understanding something about her I am aware there is probably an ancestral lineage and personal life full of trauma and pain. Trauma and pain are one way to more easily enter victim mode. I left the class feeling heavy and asking a lot of questions.

A couple hours later I was in my usual weekly class for my Intuitive Healer Training Program & Certification (IHTP). I felt this class would help me shift out of the heavy energy and I was correct.

It was interesting that during the opening meditation for the IHTP class, I kept getting the word victim where it related to the earlier conversation and one of the participants. Then I heard the words ancestral lineage. I knew then I had to explore this idea of playing the victim (consciously or unconsciously) and using our ancestral lineage as the reason we play the victim.

We all play the victim from time to time


Whether we want to admit it or not, we have all played the victim role/archetype from time to time. It is part of being human. Sometimes this energy is ingrained in us that we don’t even know we are doing it. Other times we use this energy to manipulate or get what we want.  Being the center of attention and getting one’s way can be a powerful addiction for some people. Then there are times when we are doing our inner work and healing and go into this energy but step out of it because we are consciously creating our reality.
 

I admit that during the meditation in IHTP, questions were swirling around this idea of victim energy and ancestral lineage. Plus, how do we play in that energy in our own lives.  I sat with this for several hours before writing this article. There are many questions you can ask around this topic and many rabbit holes you can go down within your personal history and ancestral lineage history to find answers. Here are a few questions to help you.

  1. When and where in my life have I played in victim energy? What was happening to create this response?
  2. Where did that energy come from? My personal history or ancestral history?
  3. Why was I playing in that energy?
  4. When I react or respond to someone while I’m in victim energy – am I explosive, angry, hurtful, tune others out, shut down, leave my body, call names, manipulate or try to control, etc.?
  5. Am I addicted to this energy? Does it create hormones in my body that give me a high?
  6. Was I consciously playing in that energy or at the time was I unaware I was?
  7. Now that I have identified the when, where and why I played in that along with where it came from, what inner work and healing do I need to do to stop playing in that energy?
  8. What changes do I need to make in how I interact with people to shift or stop that victim energy?
  9. What will it take to release this energy from my body and soul and more consciously create my reality?
 
an example of playing in the victim energy

If you have followed me at all the last four years, particularly the last two, you know how difficult life has been on the other side of the ocean with my husband’s declining health. We went through almost two years of questions as to why things were declining. Numerous tests, procedures, and doctor appointments before things got bad and the hospitalizations began.

Dealing with the medical system in another country, one in which citizens are taught to obey their authority figures without question, was extremely difficult for me. As an American who is constantly questioning everything and doing my inner work, I struggled with this limited mindset and I went into victim mode – then took myself out – then went back in – it was almost like riding a surf wave over and over for two years.

How did I play victim? In many ways it was internal – blaming my husband in my head (and sometimes out loud) for not asking questions or being angry with myself for not pushing more or staying with him in the first place (he was diagnosed with 2 cancers right after we met). Oh woe is me I live this life with all this stress and grief. And there was a LOT of grief and many other emotions no one ever taught me about or how to deal with in these circumstances. So I became a victim to all my emotions too.

Then there was the external victim where I lashed out at his friends who of course were in the mindset that you just obey the doctors and keep your mouth closed. None of them understood how difficult and stressful and emotional it was for me to be in a foreign country dealing with hospitals and doctors and fighting for him and keeping all his family and friends updated every time he went in. And I had zero support from them even from the start. So I was going through all this alone. That made me angry and I became the victim. Most of my friends in the U.S. or on social media knew very little about what was happening most of the time.

In and out of that I went and seemed to be better when I was at home and not overseas. Then last July when things got really bad again I said ENOUGH! I was done playing in all this energy – victim, supporter, healer, all of it.

When I chose that – everything changed. 90% of the attachment I felt to my husband and his health dropped away. My body began to relax. My energy shifted. I finally realized this was not in any way in my control and it was all his choice to live or die, stay sick, heal, listen to the docs or not, take care of himself the way the docs said to or not. It didn’t matter what I said or did – it was and is all his choice. Control is a separate issue I’ll probably tackle in another article. 

Did my victim energy come from my ancestors? Looking at my family tree I can see at least one instance where an ancestor probably played in this energy that contributed to this specific instance in which I have been dealing.

Was her victim energy or trauma passed down to me because she dealt with a lot of trauma before she likely went into victim energy? Possibly. Do I blame her? NO. I explore her story and the family’s story. I channel her and others in my writing to ask questions and ask for clarification about what took place. I understand more what happened and I heal these things in myself – which then heals my ancestors. It is not fun to look at these dark shadow sides of myself but it is something I’m willing to do so these patterns and energies do not continue in the future.

 

Using the questions above, we can look at where we have played the victim.

A few tips when we explore this energy.

  1. Do not judge it. We all go into victim mode during our lives – sometimes consciously and sometimes not. However, each of us is on our own journey and each time we acknowledge we play in this energy, we have an opportunity to do deeper work and heal it.
  2. Try to get out of the energy as soon as you realize you are playing in it. This is important so we do not continue to create more of the victim energy and create more conflict and yuck in our lives. Sometimes that conflict leads to the end of relationships we may have held dear.
  3. Be gentle with yourself. As we do our deeper work and heal the dark or shadow parts of ourselves, we must be gentle. No one is perfect and we all have inner work to do.
  4. Do not lay blame. Sometimes the easiest thing to do is blame someone else for our actions or responses. Blaming an ancestor who may have created the energy that was passed down – that we play victim in – is not a constructive way to heal the past and present. If you do lay blame, try to acknowledge you did this and shift the energy. Apologize to your ancestors for blaming and ask them how you can both/all heal.

Sometimes our ancestors are not the ones who perpetuated the victim energy that we play in. Sometimes we learn this from our immediate family or from society growing up. To remain part of a tribe and fit in, we will often imitate those around us, even when we know it is not in our highest good to do so. Asking ourselves to get real about why we are playing the victim is the first step to shifting that energy.

As our world continues to change in 2020 and this decade, taking a truthful look at our energy, our shadow side, our personal and ancestral lineage issues is extremely important so we may heal and shift out of the old energies. Creating a planet on which people can live in harmony, without separation, anger, and hate is what we are headed toward. It takes all of us to wake up and do our part to make this transition easier for everyone. Those who choose to continue playing in these old energies and being the victim and further causing division and anger will not have it easy as we transition.

All of Life is a choice – how do you choose to create your life, living, and reality?

 

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For the last decade I’ve studied the deeper layers of genealogy and family history. Explored the darker sides of family and ancestors. Looked at the grief, loss, war, fear they lived with, safety issues that existed, survival instincts, PTSD, inherited trauma and other related topics.

Exploring those topics has helped me do my own healing and today I’d like to talk about our current lives and forced isolation alongside our ancestors’ lives where the issues of fear and safety arise. I will provide just a little information around this topic with resources for you to explore.

fear and safety in our ancestors’ lives

Tregler family in Bohemia

If you look back in your genealogy, you will find many instances where your ancestors were living in fear and were unsure of their personal safety perhaps due to war or famine, political conflicts, immigration, or natural disasters. Those situations may have been shorter term and affected the ancestors for a period of time. They may have learned to live with the new normal that came after. Some may have shoved their emotions and feelings about it all deep inside to carry the rest of their lives while others were able to heal.

In cases where abuse and rape occurred, those fear and safety issues may have lingered the rest of the ancestor’s life. It has only been in more recent times that we are allowed to talk about these things and start to heal.

In either case, we, the descendants of our ancestors, carry their pain, trauma, fear, and safety issues in our DNA.  It is stored in our bodies and within our energy system – the chakras. I can personally say that doing chakra energy healing can shift out a lot of things we carry that aren’t even ours and make a huge difference in how we live. I’ll save that for another article. It will shock you how much we carry that messes us up that isn’t even ours.

Differences between fear & safety then versus now

I think it’s important to acknowledge the farther back we go in our family history, the less 24/7/365 media programming/brainwashing was available. Today we have news stations and social media channels blasting fear and panic over toilet paper, a virus, lockdowns, vaccines, and food shortages and killer hornets, and every other disease and way to die has been cured because CDC says covid is the only way people are dying now (or is it?) all…day…long.

And the narrative keeps changing – have you noticed? We are slowly being programmed to be in fear and rely more on the government and start to fear things outside our homes. There is a quote that goes something like, I never thought I’d see people so afraid to die that they stopped living.

Have you noticed how much of the world has stopped living?

Would you have been so afraid of the virus if the media had not told you to be afraid? Especially when studies are coming out now that show us it is less deadly than the flu? That the majority of people dying are in nursing homes (which already had care issues?)

Have you noticed the media said there will be no toilet paper so everyone ran out to buy it? We’ll be locked in our homes for decades – so there was a run on food? We can’t open the country safely unless we have a vaccine (even though Fauci said in the Senate Hearing yesterday the vaccine may not work or create more issues for those with prior health issues) – even though there are therapeutics that work (see latest France and Italy studies and what’s coming out in America outside of mainstream media.)

Why were we never told to be afraid when H1N1 came out in 2009? How many of us were so sick with that flu and the country stayed open? No shortage on toilet paper or food… makes you question right?  I remember being sicker than I’d ever been with three kids ages 8 and 4 (twins) to take care of and the government didn’t shut down the world.

Now look at your ancestors…

Less media interference may have created fewer issues with fear and safety. When you examine the propaganda/news created for WWII to get families to buy into the war effort THEN look at the propaganda/news created for WWI (a generation prior) and THEN look at propaganda/news for the generation before that, what do you notice?  

  1. What kind of media did our ancestors have access to?
  2. Our parents? I’m 47 and my parents had access to TV, radio, magazines, and newspapers.
  3. My grandparents? TV (after WWII), radio, magazines, and newspapers.
  4. My great grandparents? Radio, magazines, newspapers. If they could read.
  5. My great great grandparents? Magazines, Newspapers, pamphlets (at least in the U.S. – in Europe I’m not sure as they were peasants and likely couldn’t read). Word of mouth news which as we know often is distored.

Start Asking questions

  1. What events did my ancestors go through that created fear?
  2. What events did my ancestors go through that created safety issues?
  3. How did my ancestors handle these events? (Did they ignore their emotions and push it down? Did they talk about it? Use faith/religion to see them through? Talk it out with a therapist or other healer?)
  4. How much have I bought into the fear propagated by the media and social media which is showing one side of the story?
  5. How am I handling this fear and concern over safety? Or am I content letting the governors take away my rights and force me to stay home where my finances are suffering, my health is suffering (mental and physical), my business may be suffering or I lose my job, my kids are suffering on many levels.
  6. What emotions and thoughts keep coming up for me throughout this lockdown? WHOSE thoughts and emotions are they? Mine or my ancestors? Mine or my friends?
  7. What fear or safety based issues keep coming up for me? Journal on this.
  8. What can I do to let go and release these thoughts and emotions that are not mine? Therapy, call a suicide prevention line, energy healing, chakra healing, journaling, exercise, etc.
These are only a few questions and areas to explore in your life and that of your ancestors’ lives. We are at a pivotal moment in history where we need to be exploring these issues and questions. To heal and release all those things that don’t serve us, but certainly mess up our lives. To ask more questions about the narrative being pushed on us all day long. To start LIVING again and making choices that align with our true heart and soul. Possibly the most important thing to start doing: Stop blaming everyone else for the choices you are making. You might read my other articles on these topics:

resources

These are a few resources you can explore to dip your toes into ancestral healing and personal healing. You may also ask to join my FB Group for more support.

Online Course Option

 

 

 


 

You can also explore Wendy DeRosa’s online course which will take you through some deep healing and possibly assist in removing some fears and safety issues. Register by 27 May 2020.

Every course I have taken with Wendy has transformed my life and removed layers of stuck energy, fears, abuse, trauma, emotion, and more. I highly recommend her course.

Disclaimer: The course and book links are affiliate links and I make a tiny percentage off the sale. This does not affect the price you pay.

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Being an intuitive, empath, or highly sensitive person in these challenging times can certainly feel overwhelming.

Perhaps you’re being forced to deal with your own suppressed emotions — as well as the heightened emotions of those around you — as many of the old ways are crumbling…

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On Saturday, May 9, author, trainer, and intuitive healer Wendy De Rosa will help you discover how you can fully embody the power that exists in your lower chakras — and stop operating from the wounds you’re holding in this area of your body — in a free video event: Next-Level Healing for Intuitives & Empaths in Extraordinary Times: Clear Energetic Imprints to Emerge as an Empowered Empath.

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During this special event, you’ll discover: 

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  • The most powerful survival practice and healing technique to have in your self-care toolkit right now 
  • An energy-healing practice to help you anchor into deeper grounding and integrate the teachings of this powerful hour — so you can take them into your daily life

You’ll discover why emotions like fear, anger, shame, guilt, and frustration can be so easily triggered right now — in spite of all the healing work you’ve done.

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Disclaimer: The links are affiliate links and I make a small percentage if you choose the course after the free webinar.

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Today I start a new chapter in my life’s story. Today I start a year-long journey in Wendy DeRosa’s Intuitive Healer Training Program and Certification.

The program starts with a 5-day retreat online which begins this evening. I’m ready and excited and know massive transformation will come from this experience both personally and professionally.

How did this opportunity show up? About 9 months ago I told the universe, If you want me to follow this new path you better send the teachers, education, and money!

You know what happened? Within about 24 hours the first teacher showed up. Within a week I had three. Since then I have taken several Ancestral Lineage Healing, Grief & Loss, Embodiment, Inherited Trauma, PTSD, connecting with the ancestors, ritual, and other courses with several different teachers. I’ve also done a tremendous amount of reading on these topics and more. Yet I still didn’t have the right teacher for whatever my path I needed to be on.

Then in February the Evolved Empath Summit happened online and I purchased the video recordings and received several bonuses with them, including a full course by Wendy DeRosa, Energy Training for Empaths.  That class changed everything.

A few weeks ago I signed up for her Intuitive Heart Program and am almost through that. It too has opened me up in ways I didn’t expect.

Wendy has a year-long certification program and I had briefly looked at it when I first visited her website a few months ago. Not being sure of my next step and not being sure I was ready to invest the amount she was asking, I waited. I also signed up for the Foundations of Embodiment Certification with Mark Walsh, a Brit, which starts next week, so I wondered if I could handle two intense programs at once. Mark’s program ends by early August so it is not as long a commitment, but there is still a lot of work and reading for it.

Last week on the last day in the last moments, I applied for Wendy’s Intuitive Healer program. The universe shouted NOW! I listened. Had I not, I would have had to wait a year and I knew that wasn’t possible.

So, we are in week 8 of lockdown from the invisible enemy and I’ve had no new clients coming in because the world is shut down. The universe came through though with the money for this class and I know all will be well.

I look forward to this journey. Already the bonuses that came with the program and her meditations are shifting things for me.  I can’t wait to find out what else shows up and shifts.

my invitation to you is to tell the universe what you want and watch for it to show up.  it may not show up how you think but it will show up in the highest and best way for you!

 

© 2020 Ancestral Souls