“While there has been abundant research quantifying war’s psychological impact, much of it has focused on PTSD, depression, and substance or alcohol abuse associated with combat exposure, there has been limited focus on grief among veterans.”

Pauline Lubens

UCI Studies Grief in Veterans

In World War I we heard the term SHELL SHOCK. In World War II we heard COMBAT FATIGUE. After Vietnam we didn’t hear much new unless it was in regard to how many Americans viewed returning veterans in a negative light. Then by the 1980s we had PTSD to label veterans suffering from a variety of illnesses that were previously undiagnosed or ignored.

PTSD trickles down through our DNA into future generations. Growing up in a household where PTSD exists can create this in children and other family members. Any traumatic situation we find ourselves in can create PTSD symptoms.

With all the studies on PTSD and veterans, one primary component, especially when we look at veteran suicide is GRIEF. Yet, grief has not been studied until recently. Grief also creates issues for not only the veteran but the family and friends close to the veteran.

Unresolved, unacknowledged grief over what someone did in combat, or did not do, who they lost, survivor’s guilt and sadness of being the only one left, and many other ways veterans hold grief all contribute to their state of mind, the life they live, the joy (or lack of )they feel. This unresolved grief also affects those closest to them.

Finally, the University of California Irvine conducted a study on grief in veterans. You can read about it here. It is interesting what they discovered and how it deeply affects veterans, even separately from any PTSD they may have or had, and how it affects families.

A radio interview was done with the Ph.D. student who conducted the study and several listeners called in to contribute to the conversation, including a female Graves Registration Service soldier. The interview is powerful and full of many themes I feel we should all be exploring with our own families – even if we have to go back to our WWII or Korean War veterans to ask questions and look for family patterns. Grief is something passed down also.

Exploring Grief in Your Family History

In our society we are taught/trained/told to buck up, shove things inside, deal with it and move on, or solve a problem, when we talk about grief. We are given 2-3 days of leave from our jobs if someone in the family dies. Apparently all we need is 2-3 days to deal with arrangements, grieve, forget and move on. Our western society has not done a good job helping people to learn how to grieve, or explain why it is important to do so.

I invite you to explore the times and places in your life and family history where there was an opportunity to grieve and instead you pushed it away or did not fully deal with it. Consider the cost of that to yourself, your health, your family life, your history. How did your family veterans handle grief? How did their spouses and children? How do you? How can you begin to change this?

Grief Resources

Do you need a resource to help you? I am taking a couple of courses with Shauna Janz through Sacred Grief. I am finding these grieving courses extremely helpful. I encourage you to check them out. I wrote an article about her Healing Conversations class here.

The website What’s Your Grief is also full of resources and articles. Have you explored this site?


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Ancestral Lineage Healing is something I’ve been doing for myself and my family for many years. I have explored many different energy healing and alternative modalities to accomplish this important work and continue to study with new teachers every year. 

healing family patterns by ariann thomas

Healing Family Patterns is a great book for those just getting started with ancestral lineage healing. I have read so many books on this topic and studied with various teachers and understand this can be a complex topic. It can easily overwhelm those who want to learn more but are not sure where to start.

In this book Ariann gives an easy to understand explanation of Quantum Physics and family history. She explains how we can heal ourselves by journeying into the past through meditation and other means.

Her scientific information is backed up by client stories which illustrate various ancestral lineage issues, the origin of them, and how to return to the CHOICE POINT and choose something else that will benefit the entire lineage.

I found this book a quick read but full of a lot of great questions to ask yourself as your do genealogical or military research or are ready to dive into ancestral lineage healing.

For those familiar with ThetaHealing and other energy healing modalities, you may find some of the techniques described can also be found in other modalities. That is one big reason to study so many possibilities. You may resonate more with one modality for a time and then need something different. Yet, from my experience, the basics are pretty much the same no matter what system you use.

 

What Do You Think?

What do you think about these topics? Have you explored them within your own family history? How have you been able to move beyond and heal the trauma of the past?

Do you have any favorite books or teachers for ancestral lineage healing? Please share in the comments.

 

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There is an incredible book The Survivors. A Story of War, Inheritance, and Healing by Adam P. Frankel. I picked this book up to attempt to find another book I could use in my master class on war, inherited trauma, and healing. This book gave me a completely different view of healing than to others I’ve read.

Whether you are from a family of Holocaust Survivors or not, the themes in this book speak to many of us. As Frankel tells his story we learn about identity, family secrets, family patterns, loyalty, grief & loss, survival, sexual secrets, mental illness, PTSD, shame, anger, familial behavior, and so many other themes associated with war, survival, the physical manifestations of keeping secrets, inherited trauma, and how we each have to choose our own path regardless of our family’s choices. We also learn how his Jewish family, who survived the Holocaust, felt about loyalty and looking the other way on family secrets.

If you were to look at my copy of this book, you would see underlining on many pages. Notes written in the margins, and a lot of questions or correlations I make to my own family. I think any good book makes us think and helps us to see where we are not alone in whatever we are going through and if we are lucky – just how much we have changed and healed ourselves.

By the end of the this book I could see some of myself in Frankel – his experience, how he dealt (and didn’t) with the family secret he learned about himself, and in the end how he began healing. Honestly, I was in tears.

I will spend some time journaling on what I read and going back through the book to see all the passages I marked as important.

Have you read this book? What was your reaction? Do you have another similar book you can recommend I read?

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Question 8 July 2020

What family wound or pattern do you want to release in your life?

Each of our families carry negative or destructive patterns that may go back a few generations or thousands of years. These, on a subconscious level, can hold us back. Explore some of these patterns in your family and allow them to release.

 

Please comment below to share with others if you feel comfortable.

I also invite you to journal on this question on your own.

I’ve been thinking a lot about my ancestors this week and doing some channeled journaling of some of them to see how they feel about all that’s happening on the planet. I’ve asked for guidance on certain topics and have done more meditation to heal myself and them.

I came across a new documentary while I was cruising Twitter called ‘Waking Up’. It is an hour and 37 minutes long and amazing. It made me sit with some questions about my spiritual journey and look back on my childhood.

  • I started asking myself what gifts I had then that I had to hide away?
  • What knowings did I have that were ignored by others or was I told I was crazy for knowing?
  • How many of my ancestors had the same gifts i did and had to push them away?
  • How many lifetimes was I persecuted for my gifts and knowing?
  • And where in this life have I been persecuted for my knowing and questioning?
  • Where have I hidden my gifts or my voice in this life because the people I was with, some of them family or lovers, said I was ‘too much’ and they couldn’t handle me?

As the world continues to dive into chaos, as perceived by most of the population, who have not woken up, I can say we are actually watching a movie play out and there is no reason to totally freak out. Some things were set into motion before the good guys won that can’t be stopped. If we can step back and observe what’s happening without judgment (hard I know) and let it play out and put out energy and focus into doing our inner work, meditation, raising the vibration of the planet, laughter and joy, we will create more of that and the chaos will disappear faster.

Sadly while we can’t stop this current drama on a dime – it creates a lot of trauma on everyone on the planet. Probably more for those people who are still asleep and have believed everything the media has told them their whole lives. As an empath who feels so much, I wonder how will people cope once they start waking up and realize most of what they’ve been told is lie? Do we have enough awake mental health professionals and lightworkers like me who can support people through this experience? I hope so.

 

What should we do now?

Shift from fear to love.

This is the place to start. Step out of the fear energy being pushed at us 24/7 through media and focus on love and joy. Shut off the TV. Walk away from social media. Go out in nature. Ground your energy. Meditate. Exercise. Laugh with friends. Hug each other. These are places to start.

Consider also that we are not separate from each other but are all ONE. What affects us affects everyone. The more we do our inner work and commune with our ancestors, the more we see this is true. We are all connected and One. Would you rather see your loved ones and ancestors happy or filled with depression and trauma? Choose and focus your energy there.

The one thing no one ever told me at any point on my waking up journey is that it can be messy as we navigate this transition. We may drop in and out of the spiritual or awakening experience until we reach a space we are fully IN. Once I figured this out recently, after many years walking this path, I felt greater peace. I wasn’t “doing this wrong” but moving through growing pains. And that is OK.

To help you on your journey, no matter where you are, I invite you to watch the Waking Up documentary. It is worth your time. I plan to watch it again and see what else shows up for me. What else I start questioning about my journey and to see where I can better move forward through it with more ease and less drama and trauma.

Have you watched this? What did you think? Please share in the comments.

 

© 2020 Ancestral Souls

Question 1 July 2020

How are your ancestors connecting with you the last month? Do they appear as symbols? Flowers, feathers, coins, songs, books? Do they appear visually to you?

What wisdom are they passing to you during this incredible transformative energy period since end of May?

 

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I also invite you to journal on this question on your own.

This class will change how you research and write!

Journey with Jennifer as your travel guide, through your family’s history, their military stories, and your own story. On this journey you will read a life-changing book.

Together with a core group of people, we will discuss issues and emotions around the themes of war, religion, women’s themes, spirituality, family, stories, trauma, inherited trauma, racism, LGBTQ, caregiver issues, secrets, shame, guilt, PTSD, and many other topics that come from the book, my questions, and your experiences.

You will explore your family’s history and dive into who you are with this knowledge. You will even begin to write your own stories.

Watch the video to learn more then scroll down to explore more details. To learn more about this seven-week course, visit the registration page to find full details and testimonials from past participants. If you have questions about this course, please contact Jennifer at info@wwiirwc.com. I can’t wait to work with you and guide you on your transformative journey! © 2020 Ancestral Souls

 

 

Question 17 June 2020

When exploring my family history or living my life, is it valuable to divide and separate people thereby making some more important than others, especially at the expense of making myself small? Why or why not?

 

Please comment below to share with others if you feel comfortable.

I also invite you to journal on this question on your own.

 

You might also consider reading my article, is division necessary in family, ancestors, & Community healing?