Since I began traveling in Europe in 2015, I have visited many WWI and WWII museums, concentration camps, memorials, battlefields, cemeteries, destroyed villages, bomb craters, and other places in which sad/bad/negative/evil things took place. Being an empath I tend to feel much of the energy in these spaces, whether than is positive or negative. I know many of my readers experience similar things. How often do you consider the emotions these places create in you that can be used for change and healing? Or do you experience them for a moment and brush them off and move on?

Dachau ovens. Photo by author.

I read an article recently called, Why We Should Visit Museums That Make Us Think and Cry. I tend to feel, think, and cry in many places I visit so this article really called to my soul. The article focuses more on human and civil rights museums rather than military, but the concept is still the same.

“It’s really important to consider historic and contemporary issues from multiple perspectives so we can combat bias and prejudice – which we might not even realize we have until presented with an alternative view. This is fundamental to understanding and promoting human rights.” Throughout history, and even today, we can see patterns of denial and minimization of human-rights atrocities, along with efforts to silence the survivors and witnesses. These issues are not easy or comfortable, but it’s our role and responsibility to provoke thought and conversation that leads to education – which is the most powerful force for human rights in the world.”

Dr. Jodi Giesbrecht, CMHR director of research and head curator

Why Are These Spaces Important?

These spaces are important because for many of us, not all, they create conversation. Often we will visit places like this with someone. As we wander through an exhibit, a cemetery, a concentration camp, or other place, things call to us that we must comment on. Through conversation we hear someone else’s point of view about what is being expressed in the exhibit, etc. Conversation may create questions or points of view for us to sit with, meditate on, journal on, that we had not considered.

These spaces through conversation, meditation, thinking, push us to feel something more than we might have just reading an article or seeing someone’s vacation photos on Facebook. This may then create the need in us to do something about the issues we now know more about. This includes things from history like the Holocaust or combat in World War II.

How can we do something about those issues since they are in the past? Many people are still dealing with the trauma and effects of these events, among many others that have happened in our collective history. Inherited trauma creates in the descendants of those who participated or lived through these events, issues that create chaos, depression, sadness, anxiety or panic and many other things in their lives. Unresolved grief can devastate a family for generations. Yet by visiting these places that evoke emotions and thought, we can best determine how we personally should move forward to help heal the collective.

Doing something could be that we start talking with our own families about their experiences in the war, civil rights, genocide, Holocaust, or other collective trauma events. Writing those stories, learning the lessons, and sharing with others – even within our family – will help.

My belief and what I have experienced throughout my career as a family and military researcher is that if I can impact ONE person, it will ripple out beyond anything I can imagine. Some people do not believe this. They believe you have to stand and speak in front of thousands to have any effect on change or healing. That isn’t my belief. I have seen that if I help one person – teach one person – facilitate some healing in one person – they will go on to do more and tell others what their experience was and how the learned/changed/healed – and that may inspire someone else to look at their life and beliefs and make changes.

What is Your Experience in These Places?

What have you experienced in these places? Where did you go? What happened while you were there? What thoughts and changes did you make? What conversations did you have? How did it impact your life, living, and reality? I’d love to hear from you in the comments.

© 2020 Ancestral Souls

 

 

There is an incredible book The Survivors. A Story of War, Inheritance, and Healing by Adam P. Frankel. I picked this book up to attempt to find another book I could use in my master class on war, inherited trauma, and healing. This book gave me a completely different view of healing than to others I’ve read.

Whether you are from a family of Holocaust Survivors or not, the themes in this book speak to many of us. As Frankel tells his story we learn about identity, family secrets, family patterns, loyalty, grief & loss, survival, sexual secrets, mental illness, PTSD, shame, anger, familial behavior, and so many other themes associated with war, survival, the physical manifestations of keeping secrets, inherited trauma, and how we each have to choose our own path regardless of our family’s choices. We also learn how his Jewish family, who survived the Holocaust, felt about loyalty and looking the other way on family secrets.

If you were to look at my copy of this book, you would see underlining on many pages. Notes written in the margins, and a lot of questions or correlations I make to my own family. I think any good book makes us think and helps us to see where we are not alone in whatever we are going through and if we are lucky – just how much we have changed and healed ourselves.

By the end of the this book I could see some of myself in Frankel – his experience, how he dealt (and didn’t) with the family secret he learned about himself, and in the end how he began healing. Honestly, I was in tears.

I will spend some time journaling on what I read and going back through the book to see all the passages I marked as important.

Have you read this book? What was your reaction? Do you have another similar book you can recommend I read?

Disclosure – the book link is an affiliate link. It does not affect the price you pay for the book.

© 2020 Ancestral Souls

The Shift Network is offering a new course by Dr. Judith Orloff. Have you read any of her books on being an empath or handling the energy? I have two of them and they changed my life. Her tools are easy to use, she explains things in a way anyone can understand and offers positive energy.

If you’ve not taken a Shift Network class, I highly recommend it. Each class has several weeks’ worth of modules, usually a healing or exercise is done each class, and there is a worksheet for continued practice or writing. Most offer a private FB group in which you can also discuss and there is Q&A after each session. I’ve found these classes so valuable.

Register today to watch the free 60-minute webinar.

 

Dr. Judith Orloff’s Keys to Being a Healthy Empath: Practices for Protection, Surrender & Listening to Your Intuition During Stressful Times.

If you’re an empath or sensitive person, it’s more important than ever to reign in your extrasensory “feelers” — and start using your special intuitive powers to attend to your own physical and emotional wellbeing…

… so you’re not energetically drained by the world’s suffering, others’ stresses — and your own emotional triggers.

On Wednesday, May 27, bestselling author and psychiatrist Judith Orloff, MD, will share how you can start building effective energetic protection skills and lean into the art of surrender —  to become unburdened of toxic energies and able to transmute your life experiences –– in a free video event, Dr. Judith Orloff’s Keys to Being a Healthy Empath: Practices for Protection, Surrender & Listening to Your Intuition During Stressful Times.

You can RSVP for free here: https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/khe/a21099

During this self-empowering 60 minutes, you’ll:

  • Learn about your brain’s mirror neurons, and how they activate both your empathetic predisposition and your gift for greater sensitivity and intuition
  • Learn what intuitive healing means for empaths and sensitive people… and how to access this gift
  • Discover the key to surrendering to anxiety and fear, and how thinking and feeling it doesn’t mean you have to take it on energetically
  • Discover the importance of energetic protection in accessing, enjoying, and sharing your intuitive gifts
  • Experience a guided meditation to feel into the power of surrendering, so you can gain trust in the moment and be there for yourself and others 

Judith teaches empaths, and everyone, how not to succumb to their triggers and all the cries of the world, and, instead, to listen first to their inner voice — what she calls the voice of energy.

To be a healer — for yourself and others — you need to feel your own strength. Judith can show you how to find this inner power consistently… through practices you can access quickly and easily. 

You won’t want to miss this special hour to start enjoying each moment and your unique predisposition for greater compassion, love, and a clear knowing that can help you and others heal.

You can RSVP for free here: https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/khe/a21099

Disclaimer: The link is my affiliate link and I make a small percentage off the sale of the course. This does not affect the price you pay.

© 2020 Ancestral Souls

 I contemplate many questions. Question to which there are no right or wrong answers. Questions that when asked in a safe, sacred space can create beautiful, healing discussions. Warning! This post may trigger some people. There are no right/wrong answers but I do give you a lot of questions to sit with.

 

Is creating division and separation really necessary to do personal, family, ancestral or community healing?

Last fall I read a book My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem about racialized trauma.  While his book is meant to be read over a period of time so people can work through all the exercises he provides, I read the book in about three days. Why?

My learning style, especially with books full of exercises or workbook pages is to read it through then start over. Also, I was hosting a webinar and felt this book would be important to mention. Reading it first to understand what it was about was important.

In this book, to achieve healing and remove white supremacy and racism from the country (his book is focused on America), we must separate and divide to do our work. White bodied people (Resmaa’s words) should do their work. Black/Brown bodied people (his words) should do theirs. Blue bodied people (his words – police) should do their work. It appears only in some cases can we come together to discuss.

Do you agree with this? I have several thoughts/answers to this question. What you feel is up to you. I am presenting different sides of the question to consider.

 

Yes I agree

When I first read the book and then went back through it, I could see why he broke people into groups. Just as it is true that a woman who has never gone through IVF or lost a baby, cannot fully understand what that is like. Or someone who has or had cancer – those who have not cannot fully understand all the mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional things that come up. The same for those who are in white, brown/black or blue bodies. If in this life we are in one particular body with a specific lineage (we won’t even get into past lives) then we cannot fully understand someone else’s life and history. In some ways it makes sense that you would divide and work in groups of people like you with similar stories.

In division there can be created a safe space to discuss what comes up for a specific group – again whether you are talking about racism, cancer, loss, grief, etc.

 

No I do not agree

This is where I started asking questions on the other side. Earlier in 2020 I watched  a webinar Resmaa participated in, in which he talked about racialized trauma and his book concepts. Reading a book is one thing – if you read energy you pick up a certain energy that way. When you see someone teach, speak, online or in person, you have access to another level of energy.

The longer he spoke, the more the energies of anger, frustration, irritation rose. That may not have been apparent to all people watching but for me, being sensitive to energy, it really was. No longer did I feel all good things about his concepts.

I also began to wonder as a facilitator or speaker, should we be grounding and providing the information in a calmer manner, especially if the topic is triggering? Or is there a place for the anger to rise? If it does, will that turn people off from your message?

Recently in speaking with others about the concepts in my ancestral lineage healing group, most people, including those of color, were put off and angry that such a book could be written. After all, aren’t we trying to come together rather than separate?

After explaining the purpose behind it, most people in the conversation could see that perspective. They may not have agreed with it but could understand it. The entire conversation we had, which lasted about a half an hour was beautiful. Peaceful. Healing. Considering we had people in the group of color, white bodied people and at least one whose lineage contained KKK members, most people would think it would erupt into a violent abusive conversation.

It did not. It was healing and beautiful.

There is a part of me that feels the more we divide and encourage division and separation to do our work, the more of that we will see in the world. Where you put your attention and energy is what you create more of – whether you want it or not. 

So if we continue to separate – are we creating more of that?

 

why do we have to divide and separate?

This brings me back to my original question. Why do we have to divide and separate and group people? This world and our country is so full of division. Media and social media have an agenda to continue promoting division, racism, inequality so those who choose to, continue to hate, be abusive, divide, murder, and assault.

More people are waking up to this agenda. More people are doing their personal inner work to heal themselves, their patterns, their lineage, so issues like this will maybe some day cease to exist.

So today I sit on the fence, one leg on each side, contemplating if division is the best way to heal. I can see both sides of the issue and for some people one way works where the other doesn’t.  There is no one right way to heal or do your inner work, no matter what the “experts” and “gurus”  and authors tell you.

 

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© 2020 Ancestral Souls

Being an intuitive, empath, or highly sensitive person in these challenging times can certainly feel overwhelming.

Perhaps you’re being forced to deal with your own suppressed emotions — as well as the heightened emotions of those around you — as many of the old ways are crumbling…

The truth is, though, that your intuitive gifts are more valuable than ever.

In these unprecedented days, YOU are uniquely equipped to live as an empowered empath in a world in which you feel so much. 

On Saturday, May 9, author, trainer, and intuitive healer Wendy De Rosa will help you discover how you can fully embody the power that exists in your lower chakras — and stop operating from the wounds you’re holding in this area of your body — in a free video event: Next-Level Healing for Intuitives & Empaths in Extraordinary Times: Clear Energetic Imprints to Emerge as an Empowered Empath.

You can register here: https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/nlh/a21099

During this special event, you’ll discover: 

  • The essential role of intuitives and empaths at this time — and why your soul incarnated now  
  • Why owning and processing your emotions is so integral to the energy clearing process 
  • How to hold energetic and physical boundaries as an intuitive or empath — especially in the face of personal, community, and global grief and loss
  • The most powerful survival practice and healing technique to have in your self-care toolkit right now 
  • An energy-healing practice to help you anchor into deeper grounding and integrate the teachings of this powerful hour — so you can take them into your daily life

You’ll discover why emotions like fear, anger, shame, guilt, and frustration can be so easily triggered right now — in spite of all the healing work you’ve done.

You’ll explore how to clear these blocks and make room for a much healthier, more embodied relationship with your own emotions — and with the world around you…

RSVP here to join me for this important free event: https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/nlh/a21099

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I have taken two classes with Wendy now. Energy Training for Empaths and her Intuitive Heart Program. I’m currently starting her year-long Intuitive Healer Training Program & Certification. Every course she creates contains life-changing information and deep meditations to help clear out old blocks, release old patterns, and help you step more into who you are. I highly recommend anything she teaches.

Disclaimer: The links are affiliate links and I make a small percentage if you choose the course after the free webinar.

© 2020 Ancestral Souls