“While there has been abundant research quantifying war’s psychological impact, much of it has focused on PTSD, depression, and substance or alcohol abuse associated with combat exposure, there has been limited focus on grief among veterans.”

Pauline Lubens

UCI Studies Grief in Veterans

In World War I we heard the term SHELL SHOCK. In World War II we heard COMBAT FATIGUE. After Vietnam we didn’t hear much new unless it was in regard to how many Americans viewed returning veterans in a negative light. Then by the 1980s we had PTSD to label veterans suffering from a variety of illnesses that were previously undiagnosed or ignored.

PTSD trickles down through our DNA into future generations. Growing up in a household where PTSD exists can create this in children and other family members. Any traumatic situation we find ourselves in can create PTSD symptoms.

With all the studies on PTSD and veterans, one primary component, especially when we look at veteran suicide is GRIEF. Yet, grief has not been studied until recently. Grief also creates issues for not only the veteran but the family and friends close to the veteran.

Unresolved, unacknowledged grief over what someone did in combat, or did not do, who they lost, survivor’s guilt and sadness of being the only one left, and many other ways veterans hold grief all contribute to their state of mind, the life they live, the joy (or lack of )they feel. This unresolved grief also affects those closest to them.

Finally, the University of California Irvine conducted a study on grief in veterans. You can read about it here. It is interesting what they discovered and how it deeply affects veterans, even separately from any PTSD they may have or had, and how it affects families.

A radio interview was done with the Ph.D. student who conducted the study and several listeners called in to contribute to the conversation, including a female Graves Registration Service soldier. The interview is powerful and full of many themes I feel we should all be exploring with our own families – even if we have to go back to our WWII or Korean War veterans to ask questions and look for family patterns. Grief is something passed down also.

Exploring Grief in Your Family History

In our society we are taught/trained/told to buck up, shove things inside, deal with it and move on, or solve a problem, when we talk about grief. We are given 2-3 days of leave from our jobs if someone in the family dies. Apparently all we need is 2-3 days to deal with arrangements, grieve, forget and move on. Our western society has not done a good job helping people to learn how to grieve, or explain why it is important to do so.

I invite you to explore the times and places in your life and family history where there was an opportunity to grieve and instead you pushed it away or did not fully deal with it. Consider the cost of that to yourself, your health, your family life, your history. How did your family veterans handle grief? How did their spouses and children? How do you? How can you begin to change this?

Grief Resources

Do you need a resource to help you? I am taking a couple of courses with Shauna Janz through Sacred Grief. I am finding these grieving courses extremely helpful. I encourage you to check them out. I wrote an article about her Healing Conversations class here.

The website What’s Your Grief is also full of resources and articles. Have you explored this site?


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I’ve been thinking a lot about my ancestors this week and doing some channeled journaling of some of them to see how they feel about all that’s happening on the planet. I’ve asked for guidance on certain topics and have done more meditation to heal myself and them.

I came across a new documentary while I was cruising Twitter called ‘Waking Up’. It is an hour and 37 minutes long and amazing. It made me sit with some questions about my spiritual journey and look back on my childhood.

  • I started asking myself what gifts I had then that I had to hide away?
  • What knowings did I have that were ignored by others or was I told I was crazy for knowing?
  • How many of my ancestors had the same gifts i did and had to push them away?
  • How many lifetimes was I persecuted for my gifts and knowing?
  • And where in this life have I been persecuted for my knowing and questioning?
  • Where have I hidden my gifts or my voice in this life because the people I was with, some of them family or lovers, said I was ‘too much’ and they couldn’t handle me?

As the world continues to dive into chaos, as perceived by most of the population, who have not woken up, I can say we are actually watching a movie play out and there is no reason to totally freak out. Some things were set into motion before the good guys won that can’t be stopped. If we can step back and observe what’s happening without judgment (hard I know) and let it play out and put out energy and focus into doing our inner work, meditation, raising the vibration of the planet, laughter and joy, we will create more of that and the chaos will disappear faster.

Sadly while we can’t stop this current drama on a dime – it creates a lot of trauma on everyone on the planet. Probably more for those people who are still asleep and have believed everything the media has told them their whole lives. As an empath who feels so much, I wonder how will people cope once they start waking up and realize most of what they’ve been told is lie? Do we have enough awake mental health professionals and lightworkers like me who can support people through this experience? I hope so.

 

What should we do now?

Shift from fear to love.

This is the place to start. Step out of the fear energy being pushed at us 24/7 through media and focus on love and joy. Shut off the TV. Walk away from social media. Go out in nature. Ground your energy. Meditate. Exercise. Laugh with friends. Hug each other. These are places to start.

Consider also that we are not separate from each other but are all ONE. What affects us affects everyone. The more we do our inner work and commune with our ancestors, the more we see this is true. We are all connected and One. Would you rather see your loved ones and ancestors happy or filled with depression and trauma? Choose and focus your energy there.

The one thing no one ever told me at any point on my waking up journey is that it can be messy as we navigate this transition. We may drop in and out of the spiritual or awakening experience until we reach a space we are fully IN. Once I figured this out recently, after many years walking this path, I felt greater peace. I wasn’t “doing this wrong” but moving through growing pains. And that is OK.

To help you on your journey, no matter where you are, I invite you to watch the Waking Up documentary. It is worth your time. I plan to watch it again and see what else shows up for me. What else I start questioning about my journey and to see where I can better move forward through it with more ease and less drama and trauma.

Have you watched this? What did you think? Please share in the comments.

 

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Question 1 July 2020

How are your ancestors connecting with you the last month? Do they appear as symbols? Flowers, feathers, coins, songs, books? Do they appear visually to you?

What wisdom are they passing to you during this incredible transformative energy period since end of May?

 

Please comment below to share with others if you feel comfortable.

I also invite you to journal on this question on your own.

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Together with a core group of people, we will discuss issues and emotions around the themes of war, religion, women’s themes, spirituality, family, stories, trauma, inherited trauma, racism, LGBTQ, caregiver issues, secrets, shame, guilt, PTSD, and many other topics that come from the book, my questions, and your experiences.

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We have made it to June 2020 and the world, especially America is pushing the dark into the light. This is making us all very uncomfortable. Unstable. Nervous. Scared. Pushing a lot of guilt, shame, doubt, anger, rage, hate, and other negative emotions to the surface. Some belong to us, some belong to our ancestors, others belong to the collective that we feel in our bodies, hearts,  and souls.

So what do we do with all this? How do we stay sane as the world is slowly deconstructed? All the things we believed were for our good are slowly being taken away. What will they be replaced with?

What energy are you primarily living in? Fear – which creates more of that in your universe? Doubt? Anger? Confusion? Grief? How are you exploring that and healing it?

In my new video I explore a huge realization I had last night – I am no longer ok with this life. I want out. I am no longer happy with the stories I’ve lived or tell and not happy with most of the characters, including the ones I’ve played.

When we reach that point, it is a step into complete freedom, which for most of the planet’s residents feels very scary. After watching my video – please share in the comments how you feel. What are you going through? How has your life and your ancestors’ lives or military histories affected how you process and deal with current events? I invite you to subscribe to my mailing list so you will receive more articles, resources, education, and tips on how to create your life in the new way this earth is being created.

 

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2020 is a year of intense change on the planet. It is what some call The Great Awakening as millions around the world wake up to the games that have been played for centuries. The lies told by the media and government to keep us divided, poor, unable to think for ourselves, to not care for our bodies & souls as we should, and wreak havoc and create trauma for everyone. The lies and manipulation and control of religion to make sure we follow whatever path has been laid out so those in power remain in power and the rest of us feel we have zero choices and are wrong or shamed for any choice we make outside the strict box.

As we sit here in June 2020, just one day after (I hope) all the worldwide riots and protests have stopped, it is time to go within and ask ourselves the hard questions.

 

Am I blindly following my ancestral beliefs and patterns?

We are a combination of our personal experiences in this life plus the experiences and traumas of our ancestors and the collective on earth. 

When we are born, we come into these bodies with our own knowing and beliefs. To fit in with our tribe we marinate in the soup of what our parents believe, how they behave, how our siblings, extended family, and society believe and behave. We learn to adapt to become part of the tribe for survival. Usually it isn’t until much later in life that we stop to explore WHY we believe all we believe and choose to behave as we do. At this point we realize we have a choice in how to create our lives and can let go of our family’s, society’s and the collective’s negative or destructive beliefs.

Each of those who came before us make many choices to survive, based on what they learned from their families, society, religion, and education. Over centuries of programming people into believing certain things – most people don’t even question their beliefs or behavior anymore. Those who are awake – do question.

Often those who are awake are seen as “crazy” or “stupid” or in need of mental health services because the questions we ask, the possibilities and magic of the universe of which we are aware, and the layers of lies we see, according to most people on the planet – couldn’t possibly be true. Therefore there is something really wrong with those of us who are awake and questioning. I mean, if we go against what the media, family, religion, education, government has told us over and over – we can’t possibly be right….can we?

Those who step outside of the box and think for themselves, question everything are often the loners in the family who have said ENOUGH! Enough of the negative patterns. Enough of the old beliefs that only hold me back. Enough of the lack mentality. Enough of not being allowed to be our full and honest selves. Enough of not being able to speak our truths. Enough of ignoring our intuition and invisible guides that surround us always. Enough of keeping people in our lives who do not honor us but only seek to shame, blame, and put us down.

Our ancestors may have not been allowed to do their inner work due to the times in which they lived, but we have a choice now. Moving forward, this will be one way to create our reality on this planet as the earth gets a consciousness upgrade.

 

So what do we do to stop the patterns?

It starts by acknowledging you are a POWERFUL INTUITIVE BEING. Go within and tune into your knowing. Start doing your healing and clearing work to more easily release the old patterns. Start speaking your truth and be true to yourself even if it means you lose family and friends. A new tribe will show up for you. Not all who cross our paths are meant to be in our lives forever. Some are there only for a season to be our greatest teachers to help us learn our harder lessons and become who we are here to be.

Also start ASKING QUESTIONS and RESEARCHING. Ask questions when your intuition tells you something is not quite right. Listen to your body and knowing. Then dig. Explore all those resources outside mainstream media or what social media has programmed you to believe are reliable sources (based on their agenda). Stop looking for the “experts” to only be those with an advanced degree. There are many people on the planet tuning into the universe who have information to share. Many who are in the know but can’t reveal their sources.

They say truth is stranger than fiction. Isn’t that the time we are living in? As more comes to light the rest of 2020, the truth will be stranger and more horrifying than fiction. I have wondered how many of my family and friends will need mental health services when the truth comes out. So many have chosen to label me as in need of services because I’ve tried to wake them up and keep honoring my knowing and do my inner work. But the reality is – I’m more equipped to handle the truth at this point and I do worry about the others who are not.

Do your inner work and honor your truth. I started my conscious spiritual journey 21 December 2012 when many on the planet woke up. Since then I’ve spent thousands of hours a year working on my inner stuff and healing the abuse and trauma in my lineage, with various teachers. I’ve also committed to a meditation practice which has increased tremendously this year. As hard as some of the things that have come up have been, I’m grateful I walked through the fire and was willing to look at the dark parts of myself and my lineage. Had I not – I think I would have been a mess through all the changes this year.

One thing everyone can do is continue planting seeds for those who are not awake. Tell your story and how you chose to wake up and question. How you chose to look at your family patterns and beliefs and let things go. Others will wake up this year as the truth comes out. Those of us who have been doing our work and shining our lights will be needed even more.  It will be a good idea to continue your self-care and spiritual practices and see where you can improve so you remain grounded and sourced as these changes occur.

Finally, we can thank our ancestors and family for their burdens and blessings, beliefs, life, and impact on our lives today. Without them we wouldn’t be here for an exciting time on the planet. One many of us have lived lifetimes for, always hoping peace and abundance would come. It will, be patient and continue doing your work. Shed the old ancestral beliefs and patterns.

 

Do you need support or resources?

I am here to help people explore their beliefs and shed old patterns. I have many ways to help you.

Explore my private facilitation session options.

Join my Genealogy Ancestral Lineage Healing Group.

Sign up for my newsletter & receive access to the free Finding the Answers Journey member area. Plus you will receive information about my soon to be released Ancestral Souls Healing Circle Membership. This will be a monthly membership in which we explore topics around personal and lineage healing.

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There are so many ways to look at our genealogy and military family history in deeper ways than just compiling a family tree. The Genogram, a diagram outlining the history of the behavior patterns (as of divorce, abortion, or suicide) of a family over several generations, is one tool that can be useful to dive deeper into your past and also heal your present.

 

what does a genogram look like?

The best way to show you what a genogram looks like is to give you something interactive. View a short Genogram video depicting the Skywalker family from Star Wars.

how are genograms helpful?

Genograms can show us through various symbols showing relationships, births, marriages, deaths, patterns, and some biographical data, what is happening in a family at a point in time. Therapists use genograms to explore what a new client is dealing with at the time they start therapy. One nice thing about a genogram is it can be continually expanded as new information comes in or the therapy sessions continue.

So if this is a tool for therapists, why should family historians or those seeking to do self-healing use it? I use it because it shows the family patterns and issues we may not otherwise see. Sometimes a visual example is better than a story.

When I completed my genogram in December 2019, while reading the book Family Secrets by John Bradshaw, I was astounded and shocked that I was living pieces of my paternal grandparent’s lives. Not the blessing part of their lives but the burdens. Expanding this again in May 2020 I learned even more patterns I was carrying forward in my life and relationships, not only on the paternal side but the maternal side. John’s book helped me explore many aspects of my family history and he gives many examples of how family historians can use genograms in a simple way.

This knowledge created a turning point for me in which I had to choose to continue these patterns or allow them to surface and look at the dark side of my family and personal history. Look at the choices I’ve made unconsciously, that now I can bring to the conscious level and explore. What is working? What is not? What can I let go of or change? Do I still have to repeat negative or destructive patterns? It is all a choice.

 

Other uses of a genogram for self & family healing

Interestingly, this diagram can be used for so much more than behavioral patterns. We can map out the beliefs and patterns for an individual and family relating to the following topics. This information can help us explore our personal patterns and negative traits in relationship to different areas of our life. Looking at these areas can allow old patterns and inherited ancestral burdens to come out of the dark into the light to look at. Once we are able to look at these things, we can heal and release them so they not longer affect us or our ancestors or descendants.

  • Health history
  • Culture
  • Religion or Spirituality
  • Occupation
  • Ethnicity, Immigration, Migration
  • Business, Government, or other Institutional relationships
  • Play
  • Family Constellations

 

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In my continued study of topics related to personal and ancestral healing, through some conference I registered for online I received an email about a webinar by Troy Love, author of the book Finding Peace. A Workbook on Healing From Loss, Neglect, Rejection, Abandonment, Betrayal, and Abuse.

He had  a free offer of a 5-day email course and after watching his short video about the course, I signed up and then purchased his book.

Books have a way of showing up in my life when I need them or one of my clients needs them. This book showed up for the people in my writing group specifically I discovered, but also for my personal healing.

Troy’s workbook takes you through a group therapy setting in which he introduces the cast of characters and their personal stories. All stories and people are fictional. His chapters then take the group, week by week, through some deep healing. While upon first flip through of the workbook, you may think the worksheets are not that in-depth or “exciting” but they can create massive transformation and deep healing if you do the work.

Chapters:

Week One – The Group and Wound Assessment (Core wounds we suffer)

Week Two – Core Beliefs

Week Three – Core Emotions

Week Four – The Shadows of Shame (there are six

Week Five – Numbing and Mutated Emotions

Week Six – Faith, Hope, and Compassion

Week Seven – Tattoo Removal (the ink stains of core wounds in your heart and body)

Week Eight – Peace and Pain

Throughout the book and each chapter, Troy also has some graphics that clearly show how we start with core wounds and work out through a circle adding layers of beliefs, emotions, shame, etc. This is similar to what I’ve seen in other healing books and classes but presented differently.

I think it’s important to study different teachers and approaches because we will pick something up from one and not another. We all heal and process in different ways.

I recommend this book for anyone starting to look at their personal core wounds, beliefs, emotions and healing. This workbook is easy to use, the narrative he presents for his group meetings give many perspectives of wounds and family history and patterns. It allows us to take personal responsibility for our choices and also to see that we aren’t alone in our wounds and feelings.

Further, I think this book can be used for you alone or in a small group setting, as Troy has illustrated. If you can find a core group of people to work with, create a safe, sacred, open, non-judgmental space – I see this working well.  You do not need to be a therapist to use this workbook.  However, if you feel things are triggering too much, you should consider seeking professional help.

What books have you read recently that our readers might find helpful? Please share in the comments.

 

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